Yesterday DH and I took the skids to get their hair cut. SD12 has been wanting to cut hers very short and BM informed us that we were not allowed to let her do it. Oh well BM doesn't live her so now she kinda looks like a boy since she doesn't even try to style her hair. SD11 only got a trim. But they all gained up on me to get my hair cut. I only get my hair cut maybe once a year and a ponytail holder is my best friend. My mother even called and put in her two cents worth. I finally gave in and handed SD12 a salon hairstyle book and also handed on to DH and SD11, letting them choose my new look. I didn't wear my contacts yesterday so I was blind till it was done. I lost almost nine inches off my hair!! it's less than an inch long on the back of my head and about one and a half to two inches long on the top of my head!! Ugh! and I have bangs!!!! I quit styling my hair over 8 years ago! I grew my bangs out and said never again. Now I have to blow out and curl my hair every morning. Thank goodness I didn't throw out my old curling irons, they still work! But I did have to go buy curling brushes, hairspray and moose. Now I look like a Q-tip but the family is happy.

Oh and SD12 had another major blow up this weekend! She's getting to big for her pants. She is on restriction for lies she told last week. Then this weekend she started showing her butt and we took the TV away from her too. She then started cursing me out telling me to leave her alone and so on. Then I told her to get the pattle for her Dad (we only use it as a final option). She said no and said screamed she didn't have to do what DH and I said and went outside yelling for us to go to hell. DH told her to get back in the house and she started cursing and saying she didn't have to and didnt want to be part of our family. I calmly told her fine and said when she was ready to face the music she could knock on the door, since she wasn't part of our family.

She stayed out there about 30 minutes and got real pissed that I had locked the door. Finally DH made her come in and told her that if she thought she was old enough to talk to adults like that she was old enough to come face the music. He then popped her butt and that made her start all over again.

That's when I stepped in and made her sit down. I told her that since she didn't want to be a member of our family and thought she could do whatever she wanted then she could start paying rent like a stranger. I told her she would have to pay for rent and she would be paid for doing chores. DH told her there would be no more waking her up for school and that if she missed the bus DFAC would be called. He also told her she had to do her own laundry and that it would cost her 1.50 a load. Then DH told her what she would be paid for each chore and she realized she would have to do three times as much as she does now to pay the rent. She then ran out of the house again.

She ran out right when we were leaving to go to the store. DH called for her for 20 mintutes then told me to lock the door. We left to a note telling her the police had been called and informed that she was a runaway and that we hope she like juvey. We however fould her at the end of the road, sitting right on the edge of it. DH told her to get in before he beat the living crap out of her and give her a reason to call DFACS. He chewed her out for a good 30minutes too! By the end of it she was crying and begging for us to forgive her that she didn't want to go to juvey or live with her BM (who also threatened to send her to juvey). I don't know how long this is going to last but at least some of the chip on her shoulder is gone. The next step is a tour a the juvinile prison.