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I foresee problems with SD20 on the horizon

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Fri, 05/03/2013 - 10:03am

Let me explain. SD20 is in sophomore year of college. She went one year to a college about 45 minutes away from BM, 1.5 hours away from us. She didn't like it, moved back to BM's town to go to college there. Is now finishing up her second year. Has this boyfriend since December who is a real piece of work. Is 26 (SD was 19 when they started dating) and has six kids with four women. Is on probation for assault. Is bragging online about not having to wear a condom because he's with someone he "likes." Ick.

Anyway, when SD is not in college she alternates between BM's house and BM's mother's house (whoever is treating her "better" at the time). But she and this boyfriend practically live together in that they spend every night together either at his place or in her dorm room.

So what's going to happen when school lets out? I can't see BM letting SD move the boyfriend in at night, when she has two younger kids in the house. And BM's mom is racist and told SD never to date a black man and the boyfriend is black, so I can't see him being able to come to her place either. That means SD will be trying to spend overnights with him, which could be interesting.

Hmmm, just sitting back and waiting to see what happens. I expect DH may be getting a bitchy call from BM sooner rather than later. Not that he can/will do anything. We live 5 hours away now and he has NEVER proven himself able to control or even influence SD's behavior.

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Fri, 05/03/2013 - 10:36am

We'll see. That would chap my backside though because it would be us paying so she can continue cohabitating with the BF. I've told Dh there's no reason why SD can't live with either BM or BM's mom and save us all a LOT of money on the dorm, but he would never TELL her to do that and she's enjoying her freedom to sleep with the BF and drink every night. Can't wait to see what her grades are like for this semester when she's been so preoccupied with the BF.

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Submitted by Kes on Fri, 05/03/2013 - 10:11am

They both sound as though they have zero between their ears. TBH, I know this sounds harsh, but if my SDs get in this kind of situation, a year or two down the line, I will just LMAO. I have already made it clear to DH that neither of them is moving in with us, or I will move out.

The thought of your SD coping with not one but 4 psycho BM's is actually rather heart warming. If she is stupid enough to let herself get pregnant on her own head be it, as they say.