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My DH, the giant waffle

Elizabeth's picture

Submitted by Elizabeth on Mon, 04/29/2013 - 12:35pm

Less than a year ago we moved 4 hours from our hometown (next state over). SD20 lives less than an hour north of our hometown. SD has been miserable to me her entire life (DH and I started dating when she was 5), and she is no longer welcome in my house.

DH invited her down, told her she could stay in a hotel, I'm sure he would pay for it. SD20 instead wants to put the screws to him so starts in again on her refrain of him picking me over her. Starts posting crap about me online, I find it and tell DH, he calls SD20 up and uninvites her. No visit this summer because she cannot let things go and GROW UP.

This was all less than a month ago. So what do I find on his phone today? Another email from DH inviting SD20 to visit this summer. Um, didn't we JUST cover that? This is just a classic example of how he waffles when confronted with SD's bad behavior, then works his mind around to justifying it, then pretends like it didn't happen.

Now I KNOW what is going to happen. I have to go out of town for a week for work in a couple of months. I will bet you MONEY that SD mysteriously shows up during that time for a visit. I HATE this whole damn situation.

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oldone's picture

Submitted by oldone on Mon, 04/29/2013 - 12:43pm

I know you can't do it but I'd love to send her a message that he was not picking you over her - it's just that you have a rule that no twat trash is allowed in your home.

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Mon, 04/29/2013 - 2:16pm

I wish! I don't talk that way, but I feel the sentiment. I wouldn't let anybody else who treated me like crap to invade my home like they owned it, ignore my BDs and order my husband around. So why should I do it just because she's related by blood to my husband?

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Tue, 04/30/2013 - 2:53pm

Believe me, I wish I could! This is a commitment set 18 months in advance, the date is published and does NOT change. And he knows it. He pulled the same crap last year and got SD to come around while I was gone.

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Mon, 04/29/2013 - 1:26pm

"the giant waffle" - nice!

i had my fill of this too last night we were laying in bed watching TV, and i got up to get a drink. DH asked while i was down there if i could please tell MSS to go to bed - i told him sure, i'd pass on DH's message.

i get back upstairs and DH says "MSS asked if he could stay up longer and i told him he could."

*long deeep breath* - then i nicely but clearly informed DH that he needs to stick to what he says or i will no longer relay any messages for him, and that it was terribly rude of him to make me look like the 'bad guy' when he just turned around and undermined me (well, technically he undermined himself, but the message went through me so it reflected on me instead of DH)

he does this sort of shit all the time, especially when he's getting irrated. he'll bitch and gripe and piss and moan about something, then allow it to continue (for example, "not eveyrone wants to watch your video game. i told u ten minutes ago to take it upstairs! in fifteen minutes the remote is mine" then an hour and a half later nothing's change and DH is chattering on regarding the damn video game.) if u're not gonna freaking do anything about it, then why bother wasting your breath and getting yourself and you family worked up and on edge? SHEESH!

sometimes it annoys the crap outta me. but ya know, if that's the worst of the problems i have with DH, i've got it made Biggrin

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Submitted by kathc on Tue, 04/30/2013 - 1:02pm

Buy an extra ticket and give it to your DH to come with you on your business trip--a little "surprise vacation" for the two of you }:)