I'm happy for you, but I'm not excited.
My DH got a job a while back that he absolutely loves. Thanks to the courts taking out the part of the CO where DH has to tell Inbred where he works she hasn't been able to fuck with it. He's moved up fast as well. He's very proud of himself and I do love the fact that he feels accomplished and happy.
He's now getting training for a promotion that will be available in a year or so. He's very excited. I'm very happy for him but I'm not excited. He keeps saying what we can do when he gets that promotion and raise. I've heard all of that before, and each and every time I get excited; my excitment is thwarted once I see the CS that is taken out. Don't get me wrong, I'm not bitching that he pays the CS.
DH says when I don't get excited about these things it sort of rains on his parade. That's not my intention at all, I just know that any bump up he gets will be taken so I've told him I'm very proud of him for doing his best and I'm super happy that the people you work for finally see you for the valuable assest you are, I'm just not excited that you're getting a raise.
Does this happen to anyone else?
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Yeah, that is how I feel. He
Yeah, that is how I feel. He doesn't get it, and I don't know if there is a way to explain it to him.
Oh yeah happens to us all the
Oh yeah happens to us all the time.
My DH has come MILES since being with BM. He got his GED, went to college, has moved up many many times in his job/field. Every bump in his salary benefits BM. She hasnt improved herself AT ALL.
I think its unfair really.
Yeah, Inbred says she's in
Yeah, Inbred says she's in college, but she doesn't have her GED or diploma. I went to college as soon as I split from the ex and made sure I could make a living. I guess some woman really do think they are something special because they pop out some kids. Like that's the key to an easy life.
There's nothing wrong with my
There's nothing wrong with my state. They don't adjust it every time he gets a pay raise, they set it too hight to begin with because he didn't have a lawyer. They take 50% when the law says they are only allowed to take 32%.
But if his ex has asked for
But if his ex has asked for reviews since then, why has it not been adjusted down?
He's requested that review,
He's requested that review, he did that in May of 2014, still waiting for his review. When she asks for a review it for what ever reason won't change it from the percentage she gets. It was his lawyers fault, he put Inbred at the primary BM when BM1 was already getting the primary payment, now both women get primary payment and until his request is processed nothing he can do. They sure do take their sweet time when the fathers request it. Let Inbred request one, and there's an appointment within the month.
So, his CS automatically goes
So, his CS automatically goes up when his pay does? That would SUCK. Yeah, I wouldn't be that excited, either.
No not automatically, she is
No not automatically, she is always asking for reviews. When I got my new car, she asked for a review thinking that I didn't buy it myself. When we got new furniture she asked for a review. When ever the kids come home and says something we've done, she asks for a review. Where I'm at if you just cause to believe the NCP has had a substancial raise due to anything, you can request for a review. He has to request for a review because they take too much out to begin with, he's just to damn lazy and always say I have no problem supporting my kids. No shit, my problem is with you supporting your ex dumbass.
That would piss me off. We
That would piss me off. We tried not to let SD know anything, especially about DH's job status. As far as she was concerned, DH was dirt poor (and he was, at first).
I was very surprised that money hungry BM waited nine years to ask for a modification (had to be God's intervention). Little did she know, DH had been recently laid off. Modification denied! One of the best days of my life.
Well, I hope your DH can get away with no review, for awhile, anyway. It just sucks that these men can never get ahead with these bitch BMs wanting every cent they make.