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Submitted by Evil stepmonster on Mon, 02/09/2015 - 7:17pm

I have had little bouts of sadness here and there but nothing to bad. Mainly when doing something I always did with DH. I have an appointment with a lawyer on Thursday to file. I really have no clue if XDH will give me trouble or just sign. Knowing him..trouble. Today I was busy bee. Got all the utilities transfered to my name, closed the joint account, and had to make an appointment to see about refinancing my car in my name only. He has already threatened to take my car. I refuse to meet with him or speak with him, I just can't. Not that I think I'll turn into mush at the site of him but because when he isn't getting his way he has a tendency to lash out violently. I do feel better though, I have no doubt it was the right thing to do.

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No saint's picture

Submitted by No saint on Mon, 02/09/2015 - 7:34pm

*Hugs*

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Submitted by luchay on Mon, 02/09/2015 - 8:14pm

Hugs, you are doing great, stay strong. And no matter what happens - remember you are not to blame. I'm not going to tell you not to ever speak to him again etc (that would be hypocritical) just take care of YOU if you do. Be discerning.

And carry on moving forward with your own plans no matter what he says or does.

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Submitted by Indigo on Mon, 02/09/2015 - 10:02pm

Breathe. You're getting out of the craziness. You are showing your children how a strong woman acts when her life becomes derailed and what a woman does to keep her children safe.

Stay safe and begin to dream about that better world that is waiting for you.

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Submitted by Evil stepmonster on Tue, 02/10/2015 - 10:15am

Thank you all. For the most part I feel good about how things are working out. There are those moments when I will hear about or see something and my automatic first thought is OMG I have to tell DH about this. Those moments get a little sad for me. The truth is, we should have never gotten back together when we split up last year. He used my fear against me and lies to get back into the house, and once he was in nothing changed at all. I guess the saddest part for me is when I come home at night I have no one to talk to, but I'll be ok with that after a bit.