Dear SD15,

When it came apparent to your dad and I were going to build a life together, you seemed happy. From day one of watching your relationship with you dad, I had my concerns. He catered to you, coddled you, bought your love. I voiced my concerns to him and while he didn't like what I had to hear he knew I was right. At age 13 you couldn't even make yourself a sandwich. Then you noticed you could not play me the way you play your mom and dad. I will not buy your love. You will not manipulate me. When you are in MY house, you will respect the house rules that we ALL follow. You will pick up after yourself. You will not sit around on your ass watching tv, complaining that your bored. Trust me little girl, there are more than enough things to do around the house if you want me to help with that. You will stop acting like a 5 year old. You are almost 16 and I'm fed up with you thinking it's cute. It's not. But please feel free to act like that in public. Just please notice your dad's face when you do it. You embarrass him. He will never say that to you, but you do.

Stop making excuses for your behaviour. No one 'made' you do anything. You are solely responsible for the choices you make. You are too immature to realize that your actions now will follow you years to come. No one will want to be your friend, your family will not trust you and you will have no one to blame but yourself.

You have probably noticed that I don't react to you the way I used to. You are right. I just don't/can't put anymore effort into a relationship that was one-sided for 3 years. You dad is convinced that your mom fucked you up with her 'cool mom' attitude, but make no mistake, I hold them equally responsible. In their fight for you, they lost sight of you. While I don't hold you responsible for that, you are not more than old enough to know better. The world does not revolve around you. Other people have wants and needs too.

You are not your dad's wife. I understand that other than one other long term relation, it's been just you in your dad's life. But make no mistake, I will not be made to feel like I'm an intruder in the house that I bought. You and your father moved in with ME. If it wasn't for me, you'd still be staying in that tiny apartment that you couldn't leave anything at because there was no room for a dresser or shelf. When we are watching a movie together in the living room, you will not race past me to sit with your dad. You will not wear revealing clothes. I don't care that your mom is ok with them. They make you look trashy and you are not in any position to damage your reputation any further. You will watch age-appropriate shows and movies while here. I don't care that you and your mom watched Magic Mike together with you were not quite 14.

You have forced me to question everything that comes out of your mouth. I don't believe any apology you give. You feel that just saying sorry erases our memory. It was bad enough that you were lying to me...but when you started lying about me, you made my life a living hell. You father and I were not in a good place for a while and it was all your fault. If anything positive came out of that, it was that he was forced to see you for the lying, manipulative brat that you are. It broke his heart, damaged our relationship (with each other and you) and all you did was shrug it off. You will likely only ever fully realize what you did when someone you love does it to you. And when it does, don't even think of looking for sympathy from me. Karma is a bitch little girl.

You broke my heart. I won't let that happen again.