I just realized I should probably let some of you know that there's still no baby yet I have had the conversation with DH about his kids not needing to be there until well after Isaac (the new baby) is born. I actually talked to my SD13 about it too, asking if she wanted to be there (b/c she was the only one I was comfortable with just being in the waiting room) and she said she'd just rather wait at home and then show up with the baby there. She was smart enough to say "I've seen you pregnant for 9 months, that's not exciting, I just wanna see the baby." So...phew..everyone took it somewhat well. I told DH HE needs to tell HIS mother to NOT bring the kids until after Isaac is born.

When we first got married DH was very good at putting the marriage first, but he's seemed to kinda check out since I got pregnant, like some sort of mothering instinct was supposed to kick in from conception and make me wonderwoman, which is NOT what happened. Plus, I think the mothering instinct thing comes for the baby not 14, 13 and 8 year olds step kids.

I really appreicate all the positive feedback, it's nice to know that I'm not the only one that feels under appreciated in the step mom role. It's hard, way harder than I ever would have thought. It's especially hard when DH tries to pretend that I'm not a step mom, I know that sounds weird and I don't go out of my way to annouce it to everyone but it's the truth and pretending that I'm the BM is just weird to me, still, after 4 years, it's just weird. I dunno maybe he feels kinda ashamed that he has 3 kids with 2 different moms and a 4th kid on the way by yet another mom. And that one of the BM's is PSYCHO in the truest sense of the word.

Ya know, I've tried that "praying for your enemy" thing and I usually ended up just praying mean stuff. So, I had a knew thought, maybe I should start praying that she (the psycho BM) opens her heart to the fact that she's no better than her parents. That what she's putting her kids (especially the 13 year old girl) through is exactly what her parents put her through and I just can't imagine a mother being okay with that. I thought parents, especially moms, want a BETTER life than they had for their kids, so I just thought that prayer was better than praying she died on the way to see the kids