I had my baby. Sweet baby girl, she is now 3 weeks old. 
SD came back last fortnight and met her and had a cuddle. I found the whole thing awkward. 
I got zero apology and she spoke to me like the last 3 months didn't happen where she threw a royal tantrum and refused to come back to our house and BM sent a bullying and manipulative email about me. 

I just had my own wall up with her because I had no idea how to respond to her lack of compassion, remorse and overall bullshit happy attitude. I noticed she asked me the most stupid questions as in (questions she knew the answers too or knew that I would have known she knows)  and I politely replied with 'not sure ask your dad' where she did not ask DH. I did not bring up any of her behaviour and I feel she was a bit miffed maybe that there was no reaction from me at all with her. DH made no effort for her to be accountable and apologise to me so I have thrown in the towel and moving on. Although he did have a one on one meeting with her and stuck up for me the whole time and told her I was 100% in the right for my reaction and she was at fault so she would have hated that. Still an apology from her would have helped smooth things over but I'm not surprised that would not be an option for her. 

The skids are supposed to be here but BM wanted to take SS to a football match and his cricket presentations so he stayed with her for an extra two nights.  DH let him go, providing he is here for his birthday so SS is only staying one night. SD of course requested she stay away too because god forbid she is here alone without SS. No excuse for her other than she wants to go with SS too. DH didn't even hesitate and said that was fine. He has accepted she hates being here and only comes because she either has too or a better offer never came up for her. 

It's SD birthday next week and I refuse to lift a finger for it. DH hasn't mentioned it and I certainly will not bring it up. She has another thing coming if she expects gifts coming from me which I normally do get every year from us and if DH wants to get her something he can do it himself this year. I do not want a part of it. She didn't even acknowledge my birthday last year despite DH telling her twice to wish me a happy birthday.  Not that I expected it and I wish I can say I didn't care but a small part of me was hurt considering all things I've done for her since she was 3. But I'm beyond caring these days now. 

Anyway let's see how the rest of this weekend goes when they arrive. I'm treating SD like she's a neighbours daughter so polite and distant, no more head space for her.