Satan's spawn
I told him I'm done be treated like this by my adult SS21 for the last time. This time I told him if his kid does not start to respect every one I am gone.
My H says he is going to talk to him. I told my H that he needs to stand his ground. If his son can't handle being respectful then I'm out! My H will find out that if it's just him and his son things will not be better for them. So my SS better learn to shut his mouth because this is my final straw.
I hope this will be the end to the lazy parenting. I also found out during this conversation that my SS is planning to move out anyways with his friend!!! yay!!! It will be drama free. ( I wont hold my breath, usually when one goes an other one moves back in)
Ps, would anyone be interested in hearing all the drama my SD created in the past? I never have had a place to tell people all the crazy things I have dealt with, with her. That's why his S being like this is my last straw.
She has done things like stealing a car, taking his card to go buy a new phone when she was grounded from hers. Sneaking out when she was 14 to be with a 21 year old man eww! But in more detail with context. This place would have been a god send for me when I first started dealing with her. I was sure she was satan's spawn. ( we have still not ruled that out)
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Disengaging
Took me 5yrs, 3 Therapists, Depression, 2 Splits from my SO to realize.......IF IT HASN'T CHANGED AFTER ALL THIS TIME????IT ISN'T! Believe me..I dealt with a disrespectful selfish, jealous SS for awhile now. He breaks my heart daily! He gets everything and anything he wants from his DD aka (dumb dad) and grandpa! No matter what I do or say I'm wrong. In their eyes others see different . It was making me sick! Literally Depression was taking my life away. Then I realized....WTF you doing woman??? You giving him what he loves....to see me cry...too see us fight!.so I just DISENGAGED!!! I stopped doing and saying everything. HE has a mom. Too bad she terrible at it. But if that's the up bringing His Parents want then soooooooo be it! I know in my heart I'm a Dam Great Mom! They missing out! My SO us alittle freaked but to dumb to have enough courage to stand up for Our Family...so well he has to figure it out. I have a life to enjoy! A grandbaby to Love!!! My daughter is doing well her family is good..what am I doing worrying about those who don't care or love me??? See yourself pretty lady...I am! I'm here for ya gurl!
History
It took a long time for him to see what my SD18 was doing. She was manipulative, cunning, lied all the time stole from every one. Got everything she wanted before I came into the picture.
I told him the same shit about his daughter as I am now. its harder for him to get his son to be that, his son. They are more buddy's, pals like to be honest they are each others best friends.
It would be okay if it was not so vile to be around his son. My SS works hard, he spends all his time at the shop and spends very little time with friends especially since we moved 3+ hours away from where he went to high school. So friends now are not as much a big part of his life. And the one close friend he does have pretty much lives at the shop too.
I told my DH that all the problems are his fault as far as his son goes. He agrees, he has for a while. he just cant put his foot down long enough for the new reality to kick in.
the lazy parenting is all because he thinks all this stuff is low on the list of life stuff to worry about. Things dont effect him the way they affect normal people.
Hes more worried about work and getting things done then who was mean to who for what reason. And if he does get upset he goes to bed at the end of the day and tomorrow is a new day.
I'm not like that I can hold a grudge for freaking years And even his kids are the same way. They all wake up the next day like nothing happened yesterday. Its frustrating.
My ss admitted to being disrespectful to me and shunning
me but told his dad he did nothing wrong?? Hubby scratched his head at that one. Ss had the nerve to justify that treatment to me as “i am a stranger, he is incapable of showing any attention to my 2 kids with hubby (his half siblings) then claims he needs time to change. We’ve been married over 5 years, its the same shit and my husband gave up.
I have in the past year and a bit been standing my ground that i will not go on any visits or holidays to inlaws if skids will be present because i refuse to be disrespected by them any further and my or my kids boundaries and privacy disrespected
My ss admitted to being disrespectful to me and shunning
me but told his dad he did nothing wrong?? Hubby scratched his head at that one. Ss had the nerve to justify that treatment to me as “i am a stranger, he is incapable of showing any attention to my 2 kids with hubby (his half siblings) then claims he needs time to change. We’ve been married over 5 years, its the same shit and my husband gave up.
I have in the past year and a bit been standing my ground that i will not go on any visits or holidays to inlaws if skids will be present because i refuse to be disrespected by them any further and my or my kids boundaries and privacy disrespected