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Submitted by g-force on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 6:44pm

I have been married two years today and feel like my step-sons although their needs are reasonable are taking all my energy and attention. I want to be a family with my husband and natural son (21 months) and resent my older boys (3 step-sons) for all their needs. I want to get closer to them, they clearly want me to, but I feel like they are going to engulf me. I know I have issues and am seeking help on this and other issues. Just want to hear from a step-mom who feels like they too have lost who they are and are never acknowledged for what they do…..Be gentle on me this is my first blog EVER enywhere… thank you

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Submitted by soverysad on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 6:48pm

You've come to a good place and your feelings are completely normal. Being a stepmother is the crappiest job ever. You get all the shitty parts of parenting and none of the good feelings of accomplishment. You sound like a kind, caring person and who is a little overwhelmed and wishing all of your energy could be spent on your little one. Nothing wrong with that.

"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!

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Submitted by g-force on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 6:58pm

yes, I love my baby so much! When I look into the eyes of my step-sons I keep waiting to see the same light and feel the same inspiration and love as when I look into my little one's eyes....off I go to drive home now....