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GOLDEN UTERUS ALERT!

Gabriels Mom's picture

I blogged the other day about how SS is in danger of failing and we had to compromise on summer school if he fails etc. BM made a comment about wanting to move him to a school with smaller class sizes.

DH just called me. The Skankosaurous just called and told him she will be moving SS to the county she went to school in (1.5 hours away). A country town where the class sizes are bigger because----every child in the freaking county goes to the one stupid middle school.

DH told her that was not going to happen. Her response: You can't stop me from moving, you can't control my life. DH told her he has no intention of stopping HER from moving but she can't take SS. (I wish she would move away) She said: "(DH'S NAME)I AM HIS MOTHER!" DH of course said he knows that but the CO says that if either parent moves and that move would significantly impact the custody of the other parent the joint physical custody will become void and the parent that moved will lose their physical custody. She screamed some obscenities at him and hung up.

The CO reads that way because of BM. She kept moving and changing SS's schools (5 times in 3 years) we've moved once in 5 years so SS goes to school in our district. Better school and we're less likely to move. I think that DH technically has legal custody. SS's state ID has our address on it, DH and I carry SS on our insurance, he goes to school in our district and all sports are played in our district.

Why whenever she decides to do something regarding SS and DH says no she resorts to the "I AM HIS MOTHER!" thing? When she said it to me I said "Duh, I know" and walked away. I refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person.

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askYOURdad's picture

This one always gets me. If you are a good mother than you know you are a good mother and are secure enough in your parenting that you don't need to remind people that "I AM THE MO-TH-ER OF THIS PWECIOUS WITTWEL SNOWFWAKE"

Gabriels Mom's picture

LOL at least DH was calm this time. Last time she said that to him he made it worse by saying "Believe me I am painfully aware that YOU of all the psychos I was with are my oldest child's mother"

whatwasithinkin's picture

with the stipulation that she cant move and impact custody so I think your outta luck with this statement
"told her he has no intention of stopping HER from moving but she can't take SS. (I wish she would move away)"

afraid your as stuck as she is by that court order honey

Gabriels Mom's picture

UH We both realize that. :?

We like where we live. We are actually buying a house less than 1/2 mile from where we live now, still in the same school district. She will eventually violate the court order and move away and DH will have to enforce the CO. She believes that she is immune from the CO and do whatever she wants because she is the mother.

QueenBeau's picture

SD7's BM does this too. She flipped out one day because DH was allowing SD7 to watch a show she isn't allowed to watch at BM's house (BM said it showed too much 'evil' & 'magic' even though she's allowed to watch Princess and the Frog which has voodoo, Cinderella, Little Mermaid, Aladdin... which ALL have 'evil magic' -rolls eyes-)

She said "WELL SOMEONE SHOULD HAVE ASKED MEEEEEEEEEE. I am STILL her BIOLOGICAL mother!!!!!!! Nobody even THOUGHT to CONSULT me!"

As if DH isn't the biological father? As if being a mother holds more weight than being a father? And also if DH should have read BM's mind that SD wasn't allowed to watch a show, when she never told DH? If you want rules at both houses to match... you generally should tell the other parent. Smh.

Crazy.

yoursandmine's picture

I think if they wanted the rules to match then tney shouldnt have gotten a divorce. BMs need to realize that since they are no longer parenting in the same house they have NO RIGHT to dictate how the other parent runs their home. Mommy doesnt trump daddy after divorce. Plain and simple.

Ours took us to court, and tried to get FTC because she thought we went out to eat to much, and didnt "let" SS sleep enough before school. No joke. We also failed to provide a "distraction free enviroment" for school work. We have two other boys theres no such thing as distraction free in our house. She lost. Judge told her basically what I said in the first paragraph. It was funny. And we do not go out to eat that often, we live on a fricken budget. No way hose.

QueenBeau's picture

Yeah. In this case we don't feel strongly about her watching or not watching the show, so if BM had a brain & called and asked kindly "hey a lot of the kids r watching ________ its getting really popular with the girls. I'd prefer if she wasn't exposed to it, if you don't mind. She's not allowed to watch it over here. I know it's your decision over there."

Heck, DH would have probably told SD she couldn't watch it.

cfmommyof3's picture

OMG this is our BM exactly. DH is just the man who supplied sperm in her mind. She really like the phrase "SD's primary parent". He ocassionaly gets the "you need to respect me as her mother" shit but usually its, "being I am the primary custodial parent" blah blah blah....You have like 20 more days a year then we do so shut the F up already and your not that great at making choices for the child anyway (wish the courts would see this fact). She tried to tell us SD was grounded in our house for something she did on BMs time once and when she found out she wasnt grounded here as she demanded she was some kind of pissed. Oh well woman, she listens for the most part in our house. not our problem.