Hi All - It has been a long time since I took time to write, but nothing was going on for a while and life has been pretty content because my boyfriend's daughter has not returned. The latest development concerns her. My boyfriend moved his life from a city where he loved living to the school district where his exwife wanted his daughter to attend this better school district and she couldn't afford to sell her house and move to the school district. That was three years ago - it wasn't what he wanted, but he did it "for his daughter". He moved to the same apartment complex I lived in with my daughter... We since purchased a home in the school district together. He received a phone call from the school district and had to go to the school to discuss residency. The school district has apparently been investigating whether the daughter lives with us within the school district or with her mother and discovered that she is never at our house (if you read previous blog entries you will know why she is never at our home). Now the school district wants her to live with us or leave the district. The exwife now wants my boyfriend to give up custody (he has legal custody of his daughter) to her grandmother (who also lives within the school district). He is seriously considering this - He wanted my opinion, but I do not believe it is a choice I can help him make the only thing I did say was that he should really think about the consequences - his ex will use it against him with his daughter to poison her mind further (if that is possible - see your father doesn't care about you, he gave up custody...). My only other issue was that if she was to start living with us, he would have to have his daughter learn that she cannot conduct herself in the manner that she has in the past - unruly, disrespectful, disruptive, etc. and that I would insist that she attend psychological counseling and possibly behavior modification. I really dread the thought of having her come back to our home and cause the problems she has caused in the past. Any suggestions as to how I should handle this - I love my boyfriend and know he is having a tough time but his daughter (16) truly doesn't care about anyone except herself, is never remorseful when she hurts others and never has been disciplined by either parent (they both give in and treat her like she is 2 and blame her misbehavior on her ADD - please!).