My Sister's Skid
This kid is 17 and will be in 9th grade for the 3rd time in this fall. My sister was ranting and raving because apparently she's been bringing home someone else's report card all year and at the end of the year brought home someone else's 10th grade schedule. Unfortunately for her they mail final report cards home for middle and high school here. DAAAAAAAAAAADDDDDDDDDDYYYYYYY is furious of course because she lied but still fought for her to NOT go to the alternative school which is what should have happened. After she failed the 9th grade the first time she was in the class with the kids who have learning disabilities. There is like 4 other kids in her class with a teacher and 2 aides. She failed 6 out of 7 classes. class 7 is study hall.
I told my sister her SD was going to drop out when she turns 18 next year and she refuses to get a job. So she will just be a lazy slug laying around the house.
My sister is thinking of taking her kids and moving out. This is not the only issue they have but it might be the straw that breaks the camels back.
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Alternate schooling to help
Alternate schooling to help this kid should be considered. Obviously the current set up isn't working.
The lying over report cards is worrying tho.
I'm not sure how to explain
I'm not sure how to explain it. In our school district if you fail a grade you can go to summer school or repeat the grade but if you have failed the same grade more than once OR you have failed a previous grade you have to go to alternative school. Her skid failed 8th grade but daddy paid for summer school. So technically she should have gone to the alternative school when she failed 9th grade the first time It is a really rough school, they sent my brother there.
I am not talking about an
I am not talking about an alternate or different school, I am talking about an alternative method or mode of schooling. People that have learning difficulties don't cope well in traditional schools so the method in which they learned and do exams needs to be changed.
My niece went to a school where they had different teaching methods and all the exams were oral or verbal - appearance in front of an examine panel rather than writing a test. Kid was not dumb, just needed alternative schooling. She graduated high school.
I hope this helps. The child needs help, not knocking. The parent needs a kick in the nuts for failing to monitor his daughters education properly.
That's awesome for your niece
That's awesome for your niece and if that was the case that's what I'd advise her dad to do. The school determined her learning disability is laziness. She does not do classwork she does not do homework and she misses the maxiumum number of days of school without getting a truancy officer involved.
I think after failing four
I think after failing four grades (8th once, 9th three times) someone at the school would have suggested a learning disabilities assessment. Or the parent. Or the kid.
It's not that easy to fail that often or that severely. It takes dedication to skipping classes, to looking out the window, to forgetting to do homework. For years!
What is more worrying is that
What is more worrying is that she was able to lie. I'm.sure she had an IEP, so that means Dad did not do his part, didn't check progress reports, didn't go to parent teacher conferences, and didn't correspond with teachers. No wonder the kid is a mess. Blame lays equally on Daddy-O.
oh yea her parents don't care
oh yea her parents don't care it just drives my sister nuts. I told my sister he could keep track of her grades through the online portal. That's how we stayed on top of SS. DAAAAAAAAAAADDDDDDDDDDDDDYYYYYYYYYYYY wasn't interested. She's a total mini-wife. My sister found her bucket list. what is #1 on the list? Get her parents to reconcile. Her mom is remarried and although my sister is supposed to get married this fall I don't think it's going to happen. I honestly don't know how she's put up with it for this long.
Oh it's not that she can't
Oh it's not that she can't grasp it. She doesn't want to. She literally does nothing. She doesn't do homework, pick up after herself. Don't even get me started on the hygiene issues.
DAAAAAAAAADDDDDDDDDDDYYYYYYY isn't going to do anything to upset his precious princess.
I honestly don't think she's
I honestly don't think she's going to. With this BS and all the crap going on between them as a couple, I honestly don't think she will stay with him. I can see it, she's ready to bolt. I told her when she needs an extraction to let me know.
I disagree this is DH fault.
I disagree this is DH fault.
I think 17 does know the risks but is still not helping herself . . .
So let her fall on her butt, and figure it out, like everyone else.
Some people just have to learn the hard way.
Guilting DH at her age to me is just giving her an excuse.
FINALLY somebody puts some
FINALLY somebody puts some responsibility on the mostly-grown WOMAN where it belongs.
Yes DH probably set her up by being Guilty Daddyyyy and allowing her to lie and manipulate without consequence, but mini-wife princess is now grown (legally so in a few months) and now she will have to learn the hard way that the world does not, indeed, revolve around her.
Sad for the whole family but DH and Mini-Wife deserve whatever they get.
So all year she brought home
So all year she brought home a report card and no one noticed it wasn't HER name on it? Or the 10th grade schedule?
I always would check the name first because my mantra is ... Never believe a teenager.
LOL my sister is disengaged
LOL my sister is disengaged she just rants to me. She said she was pleased when her SO told her that SD was making good grades. She hoped she was growing up. She didn't actually see the report cards.
I told her "dude your SO is literally stupid" how could he not catch that?" I think he wanted to believe it so he willfully ignored the name on the report card.
She just sent the magic text "I want out" so I guess we will be making an exit plan