I am so sick of this lady. I just don't get why she just can't leave us alone and focus on herself.

SD 8 last night made a comment that BM stated that DH and I smoke. We do smoke but we don't do it around the kids and they have no idea that we do. I was a bit livid. Why is it any of BM's business what DH and I do and one would think, seeing has how she's six months pregnant and still smoking, that she would have bigger things, such as her life, to focus on. And how does telling them that we smoke benifit the kids? We hide it from them because it's a bad habit and we don't want them to do it. We planned on quitting before they find out and she's never even seen me smoke unless she's back to her good old stalking days. Maybe she's graduated to actually trying to hide while she's lurking instead of parking out infront of the house at 3 am.

Then, and I can't remember how it came up, SD makes a comment about how I hit her with a brush.

A little back story here:

Three years ago she told DH and BM that after I brushed her hair that I just slammed the brush down on the counter and walked out of the bathroom. She waited for me to leave and run some errands that day and then went bawling to DH about it.

Last summer BM tried to say that SD told her that I hit her with the brush (same incident). SD denied it and when BM called her a liar while she was on speaker phone with me SD freaked out about it and started crying and screaming that she didn't say it. Now SD has been known for lying but I believed her over BM because of how intense her reaction to BM stating she had said that and I've heard BM flat out tell DH about SD telling her that I slammed the brush on the counter and how she didn't believe SD (this was two summers ago).

Well, I'm assuming that BM has been working on her and now SD actually thinks that I hit her with a hair brush. I flat out told her last night that her mother is a liar. I am so sick of it. I know I probably shouldn't have but how much crap can one person take before they've had enough. SD of course looked like she was going to cry, which is not what I had intended.

I went in a little later and talked to her. I asked her if I've ever yelled at her and she said no. I asked her if I've ever put my hands on her and she said no. And then I asked her if it makes sence that I would just hit her with a hair brush and she said no. I also tried to explain to her that her mother is still very angry at DH and that she says and does things out of that anger that may not be right or true just to be mean to DH. Maybe not the right approach again but I'm over it. It's one thing for her to lie to kids about DH or badmouth him infront of the kids, which she does all of the time, but to try and brainwash SD into thinking that I would hit her with anything is just to much for me. And SD being the mommy worshiper she is makes it easy for BM to place memories that never happened into her head. These are things that she's going to actually think happened when she gets older.

I just want this lady to leave us the heck alone.