If any of you are familiar with my story since I've been here you will know that BM tried her very hardest to break DH and I up and get him back the first year that we were together.

She:
- Would sit outside the house at 3am.
- Locked the doors to my car when I had it warming up in the morning. I had to call
locksmith.
- Sent DH countless texts telling him she was still in love with him.
- Sent DH pictures of herself.
- Called and harrased DH's mother on more then one occassion trying to convince her into talking DH into getting back together with her.
- Called DH bawling begging him not to let me move in.
- Had her father call DH and ask him not to let me move in.
- Would show up at the house when both DH and I were at work without our knowledge or approval. (This was witnessed by the neighbors.)
- Showed up at my BD's school when she was 5 and asked her if she wanted to come over to her house to play, after she was told to stay away from her.

There's more, but this is just what comes to mind right off of the top of my head.

Recent things that have been happening.

- This summer she some how befriended the people who live almost directly accorss the street from DH and I.
- She has told DH that she is planning on kicking her DH of almost a year out and wants a divorce.
- Has been trying to get me to go out and have drinks with her, have a private talk about SD with her, and go and see movies with her.
- Has been trying to put ideas in my head about DH having questionable behavior towards the kids when they were married.
- Has tried telling me that DH has done questionable stuff since DH and I have been together. (Actually she forgets that I was around during whatever she's talking about and tries to tell me a lie and then I remind her that I was there and that never happened.)
- Lied to me about SD accussing me of hitting her with a brush. (This one was the final straw.)

So, because I am sick of her BS I sent her this email:

Crazy,

I wanted to chat with you about SD's allegations. There's just something that isn't sitting right with me and I was hoping that you could help me see what exactly that is. When SD first pulled the, "me slamming the brush down on the bathroom counter," it was just before school started over a year ago. How I remember this is because I was trying to get out the door in order to buy school supplies and school clothes for my daughter. SD kept following me around the house asking me to do her hair, which I finally did just before I left. Sometime in 2011 you made a phone call to DH because SD had slapped her step sister and then attacked you. This was the day that you drove her down to police station. I remember this day because when you called, DH and I were on our way to go engagement ring shopping. When you called DH, you were hoping that he would be able to get SD under control. Obviously that didn't work because you took her to the police station. What you don't know is that DH had you on speaker phone so I heard the entire conversation. You did bring up the brush incident and told DH that you didn't believe SD when she claimed that I had slammed the brush down on the counter. Which by the way is what she was still claiming on Sunday of last week when you were accusing her of lying. What is suspect is that you never brought up the accusation of me hitting her with the brush until now?

So my question to you, is why has your story changed? You tried to tell me not all to long ago that DH threw an UGG boot at SD's head and that's why you called CPS when she alleged that DH slammed her head into the wall. That DH couldn't be trusted anymore because of the boot incident. What doesn't make since is that when DH confronted you about falsely accusing him of abuse, via email, you didn't once mention this boot incident in any of the emails that you sent. In fact, you told DH that you did it because he could no longer be trusted anymore because of the other influence in his life. When DH emailed you back and told you that this other influence has a name and her name is Unhappy. You responded again by calling me the other influence. We still have both emails if you would like to see them.

I have been with DH for almost three years now and I can tell you that he would never do any of these things that you have claimed. I wouldn't have my child around someone like that and not once since you have made those allegations to me have I believed you. What you need to understand is that I think that you are lying about these things. Both you and I know that DH would never slam SD's head into the bathtub wall. I saw the little bruise on the back of SD's head because she jerked her head back when DH flicked her in the mouth. When I spoke to you last week you claimed that there was a goose egg. You have also told me multiple times when we have spoken on the phone that there are things that you've seen DH do. What doesn't make since about that statement is, if you've seen DH do things that are bordering on abuse or abusive towards the kids while you were still married, why were you actively trying to break us up? Why were you trying so hard to get him back if he possessed these tendencies? If it were me and my ex had been abusive towards my daughter or had done anything questionable I wouldn't want my child anywhere around him. Case in point, I have sole and legal custody of my daughter.

I have however seen some pretty questionable behavior from you over the last three years. One example of what I am talking about is when you took it upon yourself to show up on the playground at school and ask my daughter if she wanted to come over your house and play after you have been told to stay away from her. I know that you have claimed that you were only going to the school to see SD and my daughter approached you, but we do have a witness as to your interaction with my daughter. This action was done during a time when you were still perusing DH and actively trying to break us up so I do not believe that your intentions of going to the school were of complete innocence and that you just wanted to see your daughter. This interaction with my daughter was done the following school day after you were told that I did not feel comfortable with you spending time with my child to which you were upset and told DH that it's not fair that I get to spend time with your kids and you couldn't spend time my daughter. When DH confronted you with this incident you denied it at first until you found out that your behavior had been witnessed by the neighbor girl. You then changed tactics and tried to say that you were being a friend and trying to help me out which is also documented in email form. What I don't understand about that statement is that I had only met you once for maybe a total of ten minutes and I knew that you were still perusing DH at the time. What would make you think we were friends? This is just one example in a long list of erratic behavior that I have seen from you.

I'm not sure what your motive is but you need to stop. You will not be able to cause issues in our relationship or my relationship with SD. Things have gotten better on the communication front with everybody, which is great for the sake of the kids, but if you continue to pull what you've been doing we can go back to email contact only. You need to understand that things like us going out to have drinks or hanging out are not going to happen even though you have asked me multiple times do so with you. Out of all parties involved between the two families, you are the one that can't be trusted and this has been proven time and time again over the last three years. I think that due to all of the allegations that you have been making lately towards DH and myself, that you need to keep all child related contact between yourself and DH. If I feel that there is anything important in regards to the kids that needs to be relayed to you I will let DH know. If you have anything to say in regards to this email please respond to DH through his email.

I know it's a little long winded and there were probably some things that I could have skipped over but I have never had the chance to ever confront her for the crap she pulled with my BD and everytime I hear her say that DH is capable of physical abuse towards the kids and that I don't know and she's seen things, I just want to punch her in the face. She has got to be one of the dumbest people on the planet to think that I don't have a clue as to what she's trying to accomplish. I told DH she wouldn't stop. She still wants him back.

But with that being said, I am done having any sort of contact with her at all. If she needs for me to drop something off for the skids when I drop my BD off for school she can just text DH and he'll let me know. I am freaking through with that horrible human being and I feel really good about that.