Dhs dad is there to take him to lunch

Dh sent me a text saying his dad was at the office and is taking him to lunch. He has never just shown up like this, he usually calls and they meet somewhere. Work is dead today so I get to sit here and wonder what is happening. I'm chewing off my fingers nails.

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Probably WWE Raw

Well he broke their tvs so he

Well he broke their tvs so he will have to deal with them getting new ones.

As I said and will say again

As I said and will say again that's not how it will work out.

This is a child. Not an adult. He does not have the brain to understand what you're hoping he will.

Do you really think doing this will suddenly make it all ok. You're adding fuel to the fire.

You are an adult. He is a troubled CHILD. You are inviting more conflict and fighting by doing this.

You think that he's going to connect it and he's not. He's going to feel more attacked and less worthy. You're being vengeful to a kid.

A Kid

Again a CHILD.

Again this all started over a stupid shirt. Why don't you all come together and get some professional help for everyone involved instead of keeping the fight going.

His dad stays away from his

His dad stays away from his office unless dh invites him over. It has always been that way because dhs dad wanted to show dh he trusted him to run things. I am so nervous right now.

Agree!

Are we taking bets yet on

Are we taking bets yet on what will happen during this meeting? Maybe it'll be as good as the Cowboy saga.

Hmmm.... I'm going with stepfather comes clean that he is the boy's real father.

Aw, thank you, sweet pea.

Aw, thank you, sweet pea. That made my day.

The entire saga from blog one

The entire saga from blog one has not made sense. :?

I'm surprised that social

I'm surprised that social services weren't invited to participate after it was learned that a 10 yo was left at home basically for "all day".

BM left my autistic SS9 at

BM left my autistic SS9 at the time at home, alone, knocked out on melatonin while she went to the BAR. We obvi called CPS and because she had a neighbor peek in the window at him it was fine.

Except the windows were covered in opaque plastic and you couldn't see the bedroom from where the front door with the only windows that weren't covered were.

She did this multiple times and SO and I were treated like we were just making trouble even though SS recalled for them the antics that woke him up when she got home and talked all about her falling over and her pants falling off with some rando dude there.

BM's sister later told SO that the guy she brought home that night was only there because BM1 told him that her youngest child, her then 1 year old daughter, was his and he wanted to see for himself. When they got back to the apartment, the 1 year old wasn't there. BM thought and still thinks to this day that this dude is the one that called CPS on her for leaving SS home alone.

It wasn't.

Depends on which state and

Depends on which state and strength of the law , if one. my state has one of the strictest age laws (age 14) but is written very loosely. Wording : "“any minor under the age of 14 years whose parent or other person responsible for the minor’s welfare leaves the minor without supervision for an unreasonable period of time without regard for the mental or physical health, safety or welfare of that minor.”

For the most part, written in this manner deliberately so. What's an unreasonable period? Would a 12yr old really be taken into custody for sitting at table alone after school for a couple hours alone doing homework? No.

But it does leave it to the police discretion if he/she is sent on a welfare check.

For example, say OP's neighbor heard big boom boom slam as tv was breaking and books hurled against wall. This neighbor knows kid is alone, saw OP, Dad and girls driving away several hours ago. Calls police. They come, knock at door and behind kid who is in his underwear, sees totally trashed house unfit for child. Yeah, kid can be taken in for his safety and well being. Yeah, upon Dad being called and driving the hour back to town and getting his kid from police station, kid likely would be returned, but Dad may have to do some explaining. Obviously for this wild demon child those few hours alone were unreasonable.

However, neighbor calls, police came knock, kid watching loud bang noisy Home Alone movie stuffing his face happily with a peanut butter sandwich, cell phone right there, emergency contacts at his fingers, house fine, nothing amiss blah blah. Kid would likely be told to have a good day. End of it.

I remember being 9 and my

I remember being 9 and my parents running an errand.. but were home within an hour or so.. all day? The kid was a mess mentally before they left. What could go wrong?

I think he could and will

I think he could and will threaten his job. Stepdad is rich. He can easily top up child support if her dh lost his job.

I really doubt stepdad will take away financial support for his step-grandson. Maybe from op's dh (by firing him).

UPDATE - I just had a chance

UPDATE - I just had a chance to talk with dh and he said that his dad just wanted to talk and reconnect with him. He said lunch was good and he wasn't interested in giving details when I tried to probe. So i don't know what to think.

I'm sure he'll tell you more

I'm sure he'll tell you more when he gets home and isn't at work. But good for them. This has gotten out of hand.

A good strong boundary would do this situation good.

Goblin's DH is a grown ass

Goblin's DH is a grown ass man who doesn't need to be taking orders regarding his personal life from his SF "Daddeeee". SF of course can express his opinion, but an opinion is not the same as an ORDER. SF should shut up after giving his opinion.

Just because the SF is his boss at the office doesn't give the SF any more right to bark instructions about his personal life than anybody's office boss. Hopefully their working arrangement is beneficial to both. If SF wants to fire the DH then he'll be out a good employee. If the DH is not a good employee then both need to move on to something that is a right fit.

I said it on the last thread

I said it on the last thread and I'll repeat it here.

I'm not 100% sure that this is a real thread but whatever, here's my 2 cents.

Stepdad sees DHs Biodad here.

He sees DH leaving SS and going off to live with his new wife and her kids. He remembers how he felt towards DH and how it was him who stepped up and took care of a kid who wasn't even his.
And he's probably remembering wondering why Biodad didn't want to be part of this great kids life.

He thought that DH would be better than his biodad. That he, stepdad, had raised him better. But here he is not buying his kid shoes or a scout shirt or even participating in his sons life.

All Stepgrandad can see is a crappy biodad, just like the one who walked away and let him raise his son.

I wish Rags would chime in here and tell us how he'd feel if he and his SS, were in a situation like this.

Goblin is a grown ass woman

Goblin is a grown ass woman who shouldn't be taking handouts from her inlaws for her children.
You can't use one hand to accept all the stuff FIL throws your way, then use the other to push him away when you don't like what he has to say.

I don't think these stories are completely fake. I think Goblin is Nunya/Sheldonfan/Stepmominhidding.

The writing style is the same.
The passive-aggressive crap directed toward the child is the same.
The boyfriend/SO/husband who loves her daughters ssssoooo much that he is willing to slight his kid in order to do stuff eith them is the same.
The inlaws who love her daughters so much that they treat them like bio grand kids is the same.
The boy/girl having an undiagnosed issue that interfered with their speech is the same.

The only differences are the age and gender of the stepkid and the rich FIL.

I think the kid was left home alone and she did trash her daughters' room. Nunya's SD is old enough to be left home alone for a few hours. No parent in their right mind will leave a 10 year old home alone for hours. A 12 year (Nunya's SD is 12) yup, but not a10 year old. The SD had a history of destroying her stepsister's things whenever she was excluded from activities. I think the writing on the walls and the stolen TV are lies. She may have broken the TVs, but how did she get them out of the house?

Something happened that day,but I think it has been blown up to sway our opinions about the "boy".