Mediation
Hahahaha!
SO and BM finally completed their 2nd hour of their required 2 hour mediation. (They didn't complete their mandatory 2 hours the first appt because BM threw a fit and walked out.) SO has 50/50 joint legal custody and BM filed for a modification 2 halloweens ago to cut back on his time and put CS into place.
SO apparently heard a bunch of garbage from BM and called her out on a few lies she came up with during mediation but one of the funniest things was BM's rationalization for wanting to cut back on his custody time. Apparently BM thinks that having the kids around puts a lot of stress on our relationship and thinks that if the kids are around less that we will have time to work on our relationship and then when the kids do come around every weekend (what she's pushing for) that we will be able to have a more enjoyable time with them since we will be happy in our relationship.
Lol this is from a woman who wouldn't agree to finalizing their divorce until my name was on the CO stating I couldn't be around skids unsupervised and from a woman who texted SO saying, "can you get another girlfriend? Anybody else besides goingcrazy."
Now, skids tell BM everything at one point or another. To the point where BM knows that I prefer lots of pulp OJ to no pulp OJ...yes she came up with a story in mediation today about how I lost it and threw a glass of no pulp OJ into the sink because I was soooo mad SO didn't get me lots of pulp OJ hahahah...long story short, bull...but I digress. So skids do tell her whenever we have disagreements and argue about things and apparently that means SO has too much on his plate and BM wants to do him a favor by relieving his stress levels and taking away time from his kids.
BM is literally grabbing at straws at this point and I'd like to think she can't get more pathetic and desperate but she keeps surprising me with nonsense like this.
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At my DH’s last mediation,
At my DH’s last mediation, they didn’t even get to 70% of their issues because BM screamed and cried and pretended she was going to throw up. She kept saying to DH, “why are you doing this to me?! I didn’t ask for this!” and DH has to remind her that she had in fact demanded the mediation. She even gave him a letter which she wrote “served by BM” and “witnessed by BM’s husband.”
With your BM does she want money or free weekends? I’ve toyed with the idea of becoming a certified mediator just so I could laugh at ex wives who make ridiculous arguments like the one your BM made.
Yeah it sounded like they
Yeah it sounded like they glossed over some important things because she wanted to talk about my OJ preferences instead. BM has also pulled out the victim line during court and mediation saying, "you see?? This is what he does to me! *red face/tears*" That is what SO does to her when he calls her out on BS, disagrees with her and she gets cornered and flustered.
BM right now just wants SO to have less time, period...more time for her to exert to mind control powers on skids. CS would just be the cherry on top of that.
I agree on wanting to hear some of the ridiculous things people in mediation discuss. Sometimes I can control my facial expressions so I know I'd be giving off a lot of wtf faces all the time in there.
DH to BM: "my personal
DH to BM: "my personal relationships are not your concern. You seem to be skirting the issue for your own benefit, therefore I propose XYZ."
I guess they just let them
I guess they just let them talk about whatever they want in there...? I was surprised at some of the petty things they discussed.
Meditation in 99% of all
Meditation in 99% of all breakups/ divorce is a joke. like trying to get the Hatfields and the McCoys to negotiate.
Mediation is a joke. DH
Mediation is a joke. DH always had to go through it with meth ex and if she ever did show up all she would ever say was "I didn't know I signed over my rights to DH I thought I was giving him temporary custody until my first felony court case was resolved." They had the same mediator everytime and he would always listen to her pathetic little speech, look at DH ask him "so no agreement?" DH would say "Nope" and he would then push things through so they would see the judge.
That mediator sounds like a
That mediator sounds like a no BS kind of person. SO's mediator both times has asked SO to just consider how it would work out having less time and to listen to BM's propositions. SO had to stop that and say that he's not going to consider it, to not ask him, and until a judge tells him he has to see his kids less time that he does now, he's going to keep having his kid the exact same amount that BM does. It pisses him off that the mediator doesn't question why it is ok that the dad has to lose time like it's not a big deal.
Goingcrazy--DH can ask the
Goingcrazy--DH can ask the mediator to ask that women, the bm, that specific question.
Mediator:
BM isn't it true you want dh to have less time than you.
BM: YESSSSS
Mediator to BM: DH has asked me to ask YOU to list your reasons for this change.
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Because she's there mother
Because she's there mother and don't you know that's all that matters.
Kids don't need fathers and she was so kind to let him see them as much as he did but now it's time for her to have them and him to pay her for it.
BINGO!
BINGO!
I agree that mediation is a
I agree that mediation is a joke. Nothing is accomplished if the parties can't agree. BM would put on the water works and play victim. The mediator actually sided with DH because BM was/ is irrational and controlling. However, mediation is confidential so the mediator's notes probably went to the hearing officer but were never documented in the proceeding notes other than "the parties can't reach an agreement".