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habsle's picture

So I was sitting (trying as calmly as I can to prove that I can) stating what was in SS homework planner and what we had discussed at meeting. Around and around and around we went until he decided to fling his pencil at the table and it flew towards me! Then he yelled that he could not complete his homework since I broke his pencil! Left the room after talking to DH on speaker phone so we could all here and now I'm so pissed I could break something!

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dreamingofhappiness's picture

I weent throught the same thing with my oldest SS. I was screamed at, hurt, dodging things etc...

He toed up to me and got in my face and threatened me etc... All because I made him sit down and actually do his work. Actually follow the instructions, and follow what the instructions say. DH did not believe in me, he thought I was being to hard on his child... Well, one afternoon his father was home unknown to the child, and dad heard everything that happened. Dad flew off the handle at said son and son found out the hard way that he will not disrespect me in that manner in which he was...

A few weeks later the same thing happened again... Well, Dad was DONE. He sent said son to his room, followed him in there and proceeded to have a long loud arguement about SS education and me helping him in the manner in which I was helping. SS started mouthing off and proceeded to get an ass whooping from dad, who refuses to raise his hand to his children.

Then SS toed up to me puffing out his chest and pouting etc... I toed back up to him and told him he is not big enough to toe up to me...

The end of the year came and for the first time in this childs life, he was PROMOTED into the next grade. He came to me, hugged me and thanked me for not giving up. He stated that if it was not for me caring so much he would not know how it felt to get promoted. Every other year he was placed due to the "No Child Left Behind" program this state allows.

My advice to you is... Do not give up. Youa remaking a difference. as little as you may see at this point, you are making a difference. Stay strong.

Disneyfan's picture

Stop doing HW with him.

If dad works at night, have him do HW with SS in the morning before taking him to school.

A few mornings of getting up an hour early should work. If not, dad will just have to figure something out.

habsle's picture

I try to get dad up but he sleeps until about 15-20 minutes before the bus gets there...

habsle's picture

After the incident yesterday, I felt the need to back away. I went to take a nap and found out that DH had not signed the papers or the planner. He was at the meeting and proceeds to tell me that he "does't know what he's supposed to do." WTF! Also, DH thinks I'm making too big of a deal about the pencil incident. Am I?

twopines's picture

I don't think you are making too big a deal about it, and for me it would not matter if my DH thought I was.

My decision would be to stop helping with homework, and let DH be in charge. DH can't tell me I'm making a big deal out of something if I'm not involved in the first place. Problem solved. Smile