Senior excuses
Anyone notice when their skids were seniors that it became a big excuse for BM to want to talk to DH all of the time? Just last week she called him while he was at work. Started out about senior pics ended up with her crying about how her life was and how she was going to be alone because her boyfriend wasn't going to marry her. Also told DH that she spends tons of money on the skids because they have low self esteems. Hello! Money doesn't buy a self esteem. Anyway, that was an hour conversation and I am not exaggerating one bit. She was texting him last night about senior night how the two of them have to be at the school at a certain time. Yes...I am not going to go. I have decided this. DH doesn't know it yet. He can't claim it's important for SD for me to be there. SD17 Skype DH last night and yes BM was all up in that conversation about senior night and college, etc. They seem to go on and on about trivial things. If I did that with my ex he would not be happy. Anyway, I just wish that BM wasn't in my daily life. I'm thinking it will never, never end. It's getting to where I'm even dreaming about the two of them having their proud parent moments together. Yuck!!!
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Well, my SD never became a
Well, my SD never became a high school senior, so...
If your husband is having hour long conversations with BM, I guess he wants to, because he has other options.
If the activities did not
If the activities did not cost any $$ yes, she was all about trying to talk to SO. But SO has stopped answering her texts and calls in 2014. She would mention things to SS19 that she was going to this, that and the other thing and wanted to know if SO would be there too. He always answered Dad is at everything so I imagine he would be there.
When it came to ANYTHING costing $$ - banquets, pictures, college visits, camps, etc she was quiet as a church mouse.
She used to be an every day part of life. Texting a few times a day, calls a few times a day but then I came along and told him its ok for him to take his balls out of her purse. There was not court in the world that would allow her to stop him from being with his kids. She pissed him off one too many times and he cut her off. Just.Like.That. He just stopped answering her.
Those are not appropriate
Those are not appropriate conversations to have.
Walks down memory lane, talking about love lives, pouring their heart out about their current heartaches, absolutely NOT.
Especially because hubby
Especially because hubby wouldn't be happy if the tables were turned.
During SD18's senior year, BM
During SD18's senior year, BM and DH spoke twice.
First time was BM telling DH to stop contacting SD because it made SD "upset" and SD "is going to have a stressful year" and any contact from DH apparently would make it worse (?) Second time was BM yelling at DH, "you need to talk to your daughter!" (After SD and BM ignoring all contact from DH for the past year)
DH did not receive senior pictures, knew nothing about it even after asking BM about it.
DH was not invited to SD's graduation. Which he got bitched at for later on. I guess he was supposed to sneak in without a ticket or something.
SD and BM completely ignored any kind of communication from DH and only reached out recently to tell him to buy SD a car and fund her college education (in full, of course). Oh and give them the cash for it ASAP!
Sounds like the BM and SD in
Sounds like the BM and SD in my life. Last year, she wanted her dad to pay money for her tattoo for her bday - she was actually having some kind of "party" at the tattoo parlor but said her dad could not come. He said no way - if I pay, I'm showing up. She threatened to call the cops on him. He and his money stayed away and months later she complained that he didn't even come around on her bday. Wth? Nuts!!
It really depends on the
It really depends on the relationship the two ex's have. My ex and I are really good friends. He got married years after we separated & then divorced. He had bad personal issues but he eventually straightened himself out. He's a good father and good friend to me - was just not a good husband. I had made a decision to let go of all the anger and resentment so we could parent our 3 kids together. That was the best decision I could've made. He is married now and even his wife and I are good friends (we go get Pedi's together). We spend most birthdays and holidays together with our kids. Fortunately I was not a crazy BM. Now - I wish with all my heart that my SO's ex was normal so they could have a good relationship. That BM is a narcissistic, sociopath. And their oldest is following in her footsteps. I can't stand all the drama!
Yuck! BM used to try to pull
Yuck! BM used to try to pull that crap with DH when she talked to her on the phone - lead with something about the kids and then move on to something about her. Your DH should have told her "this conversation is over, good-bye" as soon as she started crying and talking about how lonely she is. Too bad, so sad, not my problem anymore.
Skids in my case are totally
Skids in my case are totally PASed out. They worship the enmeshed Girhippo and since she has been incommunicado for well over eight years, so have they. Both OSS and SD's farce of a graduation came and went with no invitation to Chef.
Know exactly what you are
Know exactly what you are talking about.... had the same issue and I made it clear....
if you go with BM to senior farewell ( brat demanded and BM is married to her toyboy but we are not welcome) then I will block you for the rest of your life, even in the office..... he tried but it's for my child, I replied who knows you are divorced...
now it does not matter lol we are not together anymore and he told me he decided not to go... mmmm who cares,...
but to me, He could've stopped the conversations and demands, he could've said to Aergia - I'm not involved with your mother , you 2 can discuss what ever you want, I will talk to you when I need to do something, and he could've told BM - we are divorced, we are not friendly, we never talked in 16 years, why now suddenly.. eff off... but he did not..