i have been with dh for eight years now and i am the proud sm of 10-year-old cassie. her mother is crazy and until last year, did everything in her power to keep us out of cassie's life. we got joint custody last june and since then have maintained regular visitation. her mother has tried still to keep us away, but thankfully we have an intelligent judge overseeing our case. she has accused my dh of domestic abuse (which was dismissed), she filed a temp. epo so dh couldn't get his daughter (also dismissed and we were awarded an extra weekend). now the big hooplah is over the fact that dh and i have 'caused cassie to have self-esteem issues.' this is f'ing ridiculous. and what makes it worse is that cassie is getting older, and she is acting more and more like her crazy, scorned mother. she knows everything, she won't try anything new, she is a super sore loser, she expects things to go her way all the time, and she says 'i know' to EVERYTHING. it is so aggravating. not to mention her favorite saying is 'mama said...' now, i know what this may sound like, but i'm telling you, there is nothing i want more in this life than for everyone to be happy and loved; i am not jealous of her or the fact that dh has a child with bm. BUT i do have a problem with bm being a malicious, lying psycho. and did i mention that she is dating dh's ex best friend?? and that he calls us threatening us and claiming ridiculous things, like how we ruined her self esteem. hello! all we said was if she doesn't like her teeth, we can get her braces! how is that bad? pray tell??! dh and i are dealing fairly well, actually, remarkably well, but we do have to step back from time to time and realize that no matter what we do, bm will always find something wrong with it. she hates me, she wants dh, she needs to GET OVER IT.
I MEAN, WHAT IS WITH THIS WOMAN??? IT'S BEEN 8 YEARS. BE HAPPY WITH YOUR TOOTHLESS MAN AND LEAVE US ALONE.
and if anyone is reading this, please don't judge me. i'm here to vent.