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trying no to freak out: UPDATED$ BM came in to my house

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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 11:01am

I left work to drop ss off at gym. He informs me bm is on her way in to city to drop off sd to my house. We have an ultrasound to be at in 10 min. I called SO and he sounded aggravated. Said he was going to tell sd to have her mom drop her off at gym with ss.

I am trying to remain calm but i dont want that bitch at my house knowing no one is home.

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Yep, in the middle of the ultrasound, the bitch is in my fucking house.

SO tried to get her to go to the gym. SD said she didn't want to. So BM dropped her off at our house. I told SO, she better not go in. Sure enough she did. SD called and said BM and grandpa (who has emphysema) needed to use the restroom before their hour long drive back. NEVER NOT ONCE have I or SO ever had to do that when WE made that drive. I've never been in BMs house.

SO informs me after the u/s, SD let them use the bathroom. I said have a talk with your daughter and you deal with BM. If you don't handle it I will contact BM MYSELF and handle it. She will not come in my house ever again. I told him you KNOW she look through stuff or snooped around. He actually seemed surprised, like rreally??? YES REALLY, why woudn't she! She's only been in our house one time.

I am this close to texting her to tell her I don't care what arrangements you and your EXH make, but you are not to come in to my house again.

I understand that it must be awkward for SD to tell her mom no you can't come in dad's house, but seriously?? She's not new here. She knows how I feel. I stopped letting BM's sister come in to my house. My rules are not unclear.

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 11:03am

LEAVE! You have an appointment, she can met you later.

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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 11:04am

Im not at home. Thats why i am upset. If i were home i would keep her out of my house. But SD could let her in while i am not there.

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 11:09am

EWWW.... I would freak out then too!! Hopefully SD has some sense and would know better than that...

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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 12:56pm

HA, No such luck!

I said the same thing to SO. Your daughter hopefully has sense enough to know better. NOPE, she let her in. I KNEW IT!!!

I promise you it won't happen ever again.

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Submitted by hismineandours on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 12:42pm

I wouldnt let your sd have a key or access to your home. If she has to wait on the front porch so be it.

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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 12:55pm

Oh I think she's gonna lose that key this week while she's here. The next time she's out and I'm home, I'm going right through her things and taking my house key.

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Submitted by Ommy on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 1:20pm

I wouldnt just simply take the key, I would have the locks changed. Who is to say that BM hasnt already made a copy, if SD keeps the key with her I wouldn't be surprised.

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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 2:04pm

Oh I'm pretty sure she wanted to come in and see the work we've had done to our house and see what the baby's room looks like. Bitch.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 2:49pm

BM in our situation would do the SAME THING if given the opportunity. She tries to come in every chance she gets. So I went out of my way to buy a plaque that is RIGHT inside the front door that says "Welcome To Our Home, The "our last name's" Dad, Mom, BD10, SS, BD8".

You bet your ass I bought it JUST because she likes to look inside my house. To the left, our music room, door always open, to the right, a GIGANTIC family picture, dead center the plaque and after tonight, we will have the kids pictures that I had done (that she wanted "copies of") hanging right in front of your face when you walk in. You want to look in?? Ok, you asked for it!!

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 2:53pm

Now that I think about it... I have been in BM's house when she wasn't there. And I was alone. LMAO, she asked me to though. I was feeding her animals while she was out of town. Yes... I snooped. shoot me, I am human. It was kinda funny the things I saw.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 3:13pm

Ha, that's funny.

And I am SO guilty. I am ashamed to admit. It was priceless info though Wink

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 3:13pm

Ha, that's funny.

And I am SO guilty. I am ashamed to admit. It was priceless info though Wink

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 3:29pm

Hmmmmmm.... well... without giving up too much info on this ANON site. Lets just say it completely confirmed my suspision of her obessesion with my husband. Super creepy, and sooo funny.

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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 3:53pm

THIS is why I know she had to snoop while she was there. We all know we would do it.

Although, I personally choose not to enter BMs house. I've waited in the car when I have gone with SO to get skids.

To tell you the truth, at this point I wouldn't go through anything in her house because I wouldn't want to catch something skanky. I certainly would never pee where she does.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 5:30pm

Ew, trust me I didn't use her toilet. I did see it though, and it was FILTHY. :sick: I don't even like her sitting on my planter in my courtyard outside my front door, don't need her crotch crickets jumping ship in my yard!!

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Submitted by Ghost Rider on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 3:04pm

Ugh. I don't like to have the BM in our house because she has a jealousy problem that she feeds on. I did not want her in our last house or this house. I had hope to keep her out of this house but she has manage to edge her self in here and you guessed it she had a fit.
The house is larger then hers

Tried to say the kids did not want to come over anymore because it wasn't clean.

ROFLMO

The house is clean but we had clutter at the time after moving in.

OMG and she lied. Every time the kids were here they praise this house.

Jealousy..

I told my DH that next time I rather go ahead and take the kids there and back if it would keep her OUT OF MY HOUSE.

Every time we do improvments to the house and she finds out she has a fit and immidately thinks what money we use for improvments for the house should all go to her. .

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 3:27pm

BM has gone as far as telling ME that I stole her life and that it should be HER living with DH and SS in the big house with the pool. (DH moved in with ME.. that's MY house with the pool) and that we should buy her an apartment. HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAAHHA, I have never seen my DH laugh so hard and so loud in my life.

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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Wed, 05/23/2012 - 3:48pm

Oh there was! Everywhere.

well, I'm gonna wait to see how SO handled it. If he doesn't handle it the way I'd like, I will write her an email and basically tell her

I don't interfere or care about your pick/up drop/off arrangements, My concern is my house. Don't come in my house again uninvited, neither SO nor I were home to invite you.