conversation with AHOLE today...
me: you want me to feel valued, yet you can't ever pay our bills on time, do anything remotely to being responsible when it comes to household duties, incl. paying bills, doing taxes, checking that you don't overdraw a freaking bank account, etc...yet NOT ONCE did you forget to tell me to make sure that I paid your ex-who#$%$#%e her CS money
ahole: it's not that I don't care more about her, but not doing that for her could make me end up in jail...
WHAT THE F$%#$%CK ahole! So, you don't care if WE don't have a place of our own at age 43, although I HAD A PLACE OF MY OWN AT AGE 30 and NO DEBT!!! but your concern is not ending up in jail? AHOLE! I couldn't say it louder! YOU DON"T CARE that our son has done without freaking therapies he needs because of YOUR complete inability to do things on time, yet you just want to keep your butt out of jail? and of course, stupid me did the same thing for you by paying that god#$%#$5amn child support? FU YOU!
PS - love my son, but no freaking doubt this AHOLE was the biggest mistake of my life!!!
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Hmmmm. This is not going
Hmmmm. }:)
This is not going to be constructive, but I'm going to say it anyway: Stop paying his CS payment for him, let him do it (or let him forget and then he's in jail and out of your hair LOL), you start socking away savings in a separate account, and make a getaway plan.
OK, sorry, you probably don't really want to leave him. I am sorry he is so irresponsible. I know how you feel about being debt free and responsible on your own, then marrying and finding yourself hopelessly drowning in mortgage, CS, credit card debt, etc. because of someone else's STUPID actions. That also happened to me. I finally dug ourselves out of HIS mess after many years, but I feel like we could be so much further along financially than we are today. It makes me so scared for our future.
Oh, believe me I no longer
Oh, believe me I no longer pay it. Heck, he could end up in jail for all I freaking care. You see, I dug him out once and helped him do better in his life...and then the bitc#$%$#% took everything I busted my ass for...Now I won't do it. But it makes me sick that he can be so fu$%$5ing responsible for keeping his ass out of jail and not give a rat's ass about OUR future.
I had just told him that I was going to pay his credit card, with OUR joint money and after I did, I had that conversation with him. I immediately went back and canceled the payment! FU him! He can pay his own bills...I am going to dig MYSELF out of the whole he put me in with OUR money and if he doesn't have 1/2 a brain to do his own things, then once I am debt free, he can kiss my butt...
OMG!! Im peeing myself! You
OMG!! Im peeing myself! You are so funny! Ive been there done that! Same thing! 18 months was all it took to destroy my credit and finances! I was sitting here today going over my bill, this is first real full month of being back on my own, realizing I have all this new additonal debt from the past f*cking 18 months of my STBex and the skids living with me, with me having to take of everything1 Everything was in my name because he didnt have anything and now Im left with all the debt! Jesus, I can really pick em!
That's sad and I feel sorry
That's sad and I feel sorry for your predicament! Obviously AHOLE has some of the same problems he had when he was with his DW - If he is going to act like a baby when it comes to dealing with money then he should be treated like a baby! Stop paying his CS for him and make a budget! If he can't do it, then he's out and he will have to deal with it himself and either go to jail or find some sort of debt settlement company who cares!