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been putting up with it for a while but now I'm pissed

htchc4190's picture

So for a while ive been ok with DH seeing his hideous BD... I hate it but ive been puting up with it. Then all of a sudden, he comes with this ridiculous idea to bring our 2 BS (4, 3) and go see that THING..... wtf??? I resent the idea about my sons being brought over there to his BM house so he can spend time with his BD aling with OUR BS...
And I know youre wondering why my DH is going to his BM house to see the brat... its complicated because he doesnt want BM to kniw where he lived.... so she can leave her kid with him as she wished. That's not going to happen. .. id rather him go see the brat at BM roach infested crib.

But the face he wants to introduce our 2 sons to HER... nit acceptible.
I'm definately not ok with that idea at all...
And I know if I argue abiut it, stupid DH will only get pissy and we will most definately fight... so wtf do I do about this....

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htchc4190's picture

I did... but he throws the whole.... theyre my kids too so why can't he bring them to see his BD

DaizyDuke's picture

agreed... if he wants to see the kid and doesn't want the BM to know where he lives why can't he take skid to the mall, to mcdonalds, to the movies, to the park??? This sounds like a Lifetime movie where they guy is leading a double life.. creepy

msslpy's picture

This sounds strange...When a man still goes to his ex's house to "spend time" with the kid, I ALWAYS get suspicious. What is wrong with their arranement/parenting agreement? If I have kids one day, I don't want my ex comming over to hang out for the sake of our child: take the child and go spend quality time with THEM, not the ex.

oldone's picture

I so agree with the being suspicious when a man goes to his ex-spouse's home.

That's how my second SS came about. SS and BM had a ONS years after their divorce and crotch dropping #2 was the result. I think she did it on purpose to get him back.

The only silver lining is that DH got snipped two weeks after he found out. So thankfully he had no children with his second wife. She's the one who is a total bitch and sued her ex every few months.

I can't tell you how many friends have confided in me that they slept with their ex. DH's second wife ended up sleeping with her ex after spewing hate about him for years and years.

htchc4190's picture

Yea it is wierd... but BM has a SO. When DH does show his face there.. sometimes shes there or sometimes her SO is there... i refuse to have his BD at our house and dirty up everything... she is just as dirty as her triflant mother..

And as much as I don't want my kids around my DH kid,.......
I don't want my kids around her.... point blank...

I don't care if he spends his time with that kid...
I just don't want her around mine

stepmomto3bioto1's picture

Yikes!!! Umm.. id down right divorce my DH if he was going over to & staying at BMs to spend his patenting time with his child!!! Oh heck noooooo!!! No way! I have no patience for that kinda stuff!! Theres always places to go to that arent expensive at all. Park, play place at the mall, perhaps a family members, heck a friends house would be faaaaaar better an idea. This sounds very fishy to me girl!! Id be putting my foot down firmly on this!! This is a battle id fight!!!