A while ago I posted that BM's hubby mentioned to us that he was upset because BM expects him to treat SD like his own while he has another child from a previous relationship who BM won't let him have anything to do with. He said he wasn't even allowed to speak the child's name in their house and yet he has to constantly put up with SD's attitude, disrespect, "you're not my real dad" comments, etc. and basically treat her like a princess...Both my FH and I were stunned when we heard that and even though it was clear she was embarrassed, it almost looked as if BM was proud of herself as well, which was extra icky. Once we had some time to digest that, we couldn't fathom how this could happen, I mean where are his balls? No one's wife should be able to have that much control and forbid someone from seeing his child. Her husband should never have let her get away with that kind of behaviour...we just didn't understand how she could be such a hypocrite!!

Well, new information has surfaced that helps to explain (though not much) the situation. Here it is...

BM's husband told her when they met that there was a chance that he fathered a child, though the mother had said different things about who the father was, so he was never really sure if it was his, plus the mother got married to someone else and pretty much told BM's husband to stay out of it (we don't know why) so he did...for ten years...BM said she only married him because she was pretty sure that the kid wasn't his, but fully expected him to welcome her daughter with open arms...

Well, ten years later, the woman shows back up, now divorced, and asks for a DNA test, which proves that BM's hubby in fact is the father....well BM takes an absolute fit saying she never would have married him if she knew he had a kid and that she was thinking of divorcing him and soon, before this other woman takes all him money for child support, etc...she said this woman only surfaced now because she probably found out that they have a house and 2 cars and wants money...she was livid...

Then somehow BM had a total change of heart and started posting on Facebook about how happy she is to have a fourth child (her and hubby have 2 together) and can't wait to welcome him into the family...

So funny, and weird...SD12 doesn't know what to make of all this yet, and I actually feel bad for her...how messed up is her family? She has her mom and her hubby, her 2 half-siblings, now a 10 year-old step-brother, and if/when I have children, she'll have other half-siblings over here....craziness!!