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SD "sick" after week long break

I love dogs's picture

I'm at work all day and shouldn't see her before she goes back to BM's but DH told me he's letting her stay home today after an entire week off last week for Thanksgiving break. The funny part? She was perfectly fine last night and didn't eat dinner with us because she was playing with the dogs instead and "didn't like the chicken". 

The one plus is her attitude was great after DH got onto her after Thanksgiving but he gave her phone right back the next day and she vegged out all day Friday on video games. BUT there was zero attitude after Thursday so I'm kinda ok with it. guess this is a "not my monkey, not my circus" situation but this is not going to fly with our daughter.

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lieutenant_dad's picture

It's possible, after being around 100+ people and not being the most hygienic girl in the world, that she came down with something and felt cruddy today. Now, that doesn't mean she should stay home, but it is the season for "The Crud" to travel, especially in large groups who have likely been spending time in other large groups at a place that had hosted other large groups without probable proper disinfection between what was probably an event-filled weekend.

I love dogs's picture

I told DH she needs to disinfect her room with lysol wipes before she leaves and she definitely isn't the most hygienic person.

Jcksjj's picture

Yeah, being fine the night before doesnt really mean anything. I will say though, after all the fake illnesses SD has had all the time I now assume shes making it up when she says shes sick unless I can see actually evidence such as a fever etc. Idk if you're in the same boat.

I love dogs's picture

No fever and her cough from last week is pretty much gone because she's been taking medicine for it.

momjeans's picture

I would be drawing a hard line with SD’s constant not feeling well that causes her to miss school. That’s the underlying issue here. School. Because she’s failing and struggling per your previous blogs. 

I love dogs's picture

I'm thinking this. DH said she's up 12% in math but that would only bring her up to a 30% and is still obviously a failing grade. There is less than a month until Christmas break and she just had an entire week off.

momjeans's picture

It doesn’t matter what she’s up to. A failing grade is a failing grade. Ask him how this is going to further her in “upping” something, by allowing her to stay home. This is totally a two steps forward, three steps back thing. He also needs to stop making excuses for her, or arguing her case.

momjeans's picture

You need to implement what I did with my (now adult) DS when he was her age. Oh, you’re not feeling well?

• Rest, fluids

• No special food, or requests for certain foods (Looking at your DH here...), because it’s going to be soup, toast, crackers, water, and electrolytes allllll day.

• No phones/iPad/Laptop/TV. 

• No whining and complaining. 

If she is sick enough to stay home from school, all of these things should not be hard to abide by.

Chmmy's picture

I want to start that for SS11. He tells the nurse throws up at school and comes home and plays video games and eats poptarts. Next time i get stuck with him because he is "sick" there will be no games, phone and junk food.

momjeans's picture

Consistency is key.

I realize absences are calculated differently these days, but I was never above taking my child in to school for a half day, once I established they really weren’t sick at all.