So mediation was a joke, 4 hours of absolute nonsense in which neither SO or BM realized that the mediator is just there to make sure they don't kill each other, the mediator was NOT a referee, they have NOTHING to do with the court process, can not make reccomendations, ect.

Anyway, they tentatively agreed to a new schedule that SO came up with (its the dumbest schedule I've ever seen, and why BM would agree to this since its SOOOO confusing and way more inconvenenent than our current schedule...but anyway..)

The NEW schedule would be the same every month rather than staggering every week on the 2-4-2-4 schedule.

The first week of the month SO will have SD Sunday and Monday
The second week he will have her tuesday/wed/thur
the third week he will have her tuesday/wed
the 4th week he will have her thurs/fri/sat

which brings us to the first week of the next month where he would have her sun/mon, so there is one chunk of the month where he will have SD for a 5 day period.

He thinks he is a genius for coming up with this.

I told him yes, that was smart to get her to agree (in writing) to something that shows that she is willing to be seperated from SD for 5 days (that was her only argument against 50/50 was because she didn't want to be seperated that long, and SO pushed the fact that twice a month she would have her all to herself for 7 days at a time)

but it was STUPID to come up with this assbackwards schedule, and NO JUDGE is going to agree with it.

I mapped out/color coded the next 6 months on a calander and SURPRISE!! BM would be missing EVERY major holiday this year, and they are all smack in the middle of our visitations so the holiday schedule they have been using would not work AT ALL unless SO wants to give up his days.

So I had SO email her (after MUCH fighting last night) and tell her that it wasn't fair that she would miss the holidays and also after mapping it out for 6 moonths he realizes that she would have SD most weekends...only to realize she had already emailed HIM saying this:

BM: I think we may have to revise the schedule. I realize you're only going to have her on your days off once a month. I really think you need to have her when you're not working. Plus I realize I would have her most weekends, which isn't a super big deal. So I'm going to draw up some more ideas.

What did I tell you SO??!! The ONLY reason she wants to lower his parenting time to every other weekend was because she wants more weekend time off more regularly and her BF has HIS kids every other weekend so she is trying to sync up the schedules so they can have kid free weekends. HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SD.

Then this morning she comes up with SO should take SD EVERY SUNDAY/MONDAY and EVERY OTHER SATURDAY. Because those are his "days off" (not always, which she knows). And its more "consistant".

Yes, consistancy is fine, but I'm sorry he is looking for a new job, those are not going to be his days off forever and I am not willing to have SD EVERY SINGLE SUNDAY/MONDAY. SO and I like to spend time together too, which maybe happens once a month with our current schedule, it will happen NEVER if we take her every weekend like that.

I think the fact that she already agreed to a 5 day chunk is a big thing....what would you guys propose? We're already at 2-4-2-4, I don't think it would be that huge of a leap to go to an even 3 days on 3 days off.