As you all know by now, SO and I are taking BM back to court (its been a year since last time) and we are going to try yet again for 50/50 because a) SD is getting older and b) SD needs more stability c) BMs circumstances have drastically changed D) I think I have a pretty good arsenal to use against her if our lawyer would pull his head out of his ass....but SO wanted to try to talk to her first because she doesn't know that we are taking her back to court yet...he wanted to try to get her to agree out of court. LOL ok honey.

So yesterday, BM texts him 3 hours before pickup saying "do you want SD early, we're done with our easter stuff"....ok, she does this nearly every day and once again we were busy and couldn't just drop everything to go pick her up so he finally stood up for himself and said "I am busy right now but if you don't want her I can come and get her"....I thought this was a reasonalble response, even if deep down I knew that was going to push her buttons, but hey you clearly don't want to spend time with your daughter if you keep trying to pawn her off on us every day with no heads up.

She then goes on to text him about clothes she is missing and how he needs to send them back ASAP and he can forget about any extra time ever again because "he pissed her off" with that statement.

ok. Props to SO, he simply replied "are you missing any other clothes, if not you need to pack SD an overnight bag so we won't have to worry about this anymore."

BM: well I don't know what Im mmissing because some of our clothes are in the closet and some of the them are clean on the floor"

WHAT KIND OF RESPONSE IS THIS?? WHHHAAAAT?

BM: Also I am not packing her an overnight bag because then I won't get her clothes back and I never do.
SO: yes, I always give her clothes back, this is such a petty thing to argue about, if you pack her an overnight bag, that will be one less thing either of us has to stress about and I can send her clothes back that she wore back in her bag.

Then it got fascinating...

SO: Are you free tomorrow? I have some things that I need to discuss with you that are better discussed in person, not via text. Lady is leaving for a few hours to give us privacy and if you are available I would like to sit down and talk.

BM: What the fuck about? I have nothing to say to you SO, if you had to talk to me you could have done it at mediation.
BM: Why are you trying to piss me off?
BM: We can talk today at 4:30 when you pick up SD.

SO: I am not trying to piss you off, and I can not talk to you today, half an hour in the BK parking lot will not do. I have to go to dinner at my parents at 5.

BM: Well Im busy tomorrow I have a job interview. no, I don't have shit to say to you.
BM:what is so damn important that you need to talk about? You can come here, Im not driving out there I dont have gas money.
BM: If this has anything to do with custody dont waste your breath. Stop trying to piss me off, what do you need to talk about.

After about 2 and a half hours of this nonsense SO finally texts her a list of what he wants to talk about.

SO: ok, here is what I need to talk to you about:

1. Custody modification...SD is getting older now and she needs more stability.
2. potty training.
3. The fact that we are going to be a blended family soon and we need to sit down and talk and figure out how we are going to communicate and get along for the sake of our daughter.
4. How extra visitation time is alloted. If I am free and can, I will ask you if I can take her early. If YOU need me to take her early for whatever reason you need to give me more than 3 hours notice.

BM:If you want to talk I will record every bit of conversation and keep my lawyer posted.
BM: We are not a family. SD and I are a family, you are just a waste of time lol
BM:If you can't talk to me today it must not be that important.
BM:I can't afford to drive out there just because you want to talk. not my problem, tough shit for you.

side note: we live exactly 9 minutes away. please.

BM:you're just trying to get me worked up and its not working, stop being such a shitty person.

SO: ok, thanks see you at 5.

BM: First of all, modified custody is out of the question, SD is in a very stable household and if you think your house is more stable enviroment for her your gonna make me laugh. everything you brought up is dumb and not worth talking about.

BM:and don't plan on extra time anymore, I offered it to you, not told you you had to take her so this conversation is completely out of the question now.
BM:we can DECREASE your time if you like.
BM:It's not gonna be stable for SD to bounce between 2 houses, the time you have is the time you get and it won't be increased until SD is old enough to go to a judge and say she wants to stay with you.

BM: but we are working on decreasing your time as it is and my lawyer will be happy to read these messages tomorrow because its not gonna happen.

BM:I dont know why u wanna take SD out of a place where shes happy and put her someplace she is miserable (your house) she always crys when I tell her its time to go to daddies house. And joe is a wonderful father figure to SD and shows her what a stable man is. She calls him daddy. and he will be more of a dad to her then youll ever be.

sidenote: Joe is her sisters husband. BM lives in her sisters basement right now. yeah.

BM:keep wasting my time with your lame attempt to make me angry and I will keep my lawyer posted. and take me back to court if you want, Ive got a whole book on all the shitty things you've done in teh past 2 years that a judge would love to see im sure.

BM: let me word it this way, we have nothing to talk about so you need to just give up. you had your chance, sorry things arent going your way. not my problem.

BM:If you want to have more control in your kids life then have another kid.

Bm: all I can say is if you're gonna start being an asshole I can start being a bitch again, I thought we had moved past all this but you proved today that your not.

LOLOLOLOL.

omg. Trust me, I didnt leave anything out. THAT is how much she texted him and that is ALL he said to her.

oh and when he went to pick up SD, BM tells him that its not worth her time driving halfway for drop off at BK anymore so he needs to drive all the way to her sisters house for pick up and drop offs now. nice.

and she still didnt pack an overnight bag.

Also, she doesnt even have a lawyer which made this 10 times more hilarious.

SO is calling his lawyer TODAY. GRRRRRRRRRRRR!