I really hate holidays...

So, BM has started doing this wonderful thing since we moved of telling SS4 all the fun things she's gotten him for her house... First it was a tooth brush, then it was a toy, and now it's a pumpkin for Halloween :?

If she actually did get him a pumpkin, which I really don't think she did, it would be the most useless pumpkin ever when he finally gets to see it. Per the court order, which she willingly signed, she does not get to see him until summer IF she comes and gets him. For her to come get him would be easily $2,000+ so that will never happen... She would say that she couldn't come pick him up from across town because she couldn't afford the gas.

But anyway, SS4 tells me how excited he is about this stupid pumpkin that his idiot BM told him she got for him. And, of course, I had to be the one to break his heart and tell him the truth that he wouldn't be seeing BM for Halloween.

DH and I work opposite shifts so there's no way I could have made him tell him but it still just sucks being the one that SS4 always talks to about his BM. I even asked DH if SS4 ever talked to him about some of the crap BM has told him like he does to me, no such luck. Part of me is happy that he feels comfortable enough to talk to me about things like this and the other part of me hates it because that means I have to be the one to tell him the truth.

I'm just so sick of her lies, the only person it hurts is SS4.

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Yes she is bitching bc the BM

Yes she is bitching bc the BM didn't fight for her own kid but then calls and tells him all the cool shit she bought that he will never ever get to see bc she is too lazy to fight or raise her own child.

I wouldn't call it heartless, I'd call it realistic.

i can relate. When I moved in

i can relate. When I moved in with my OH a year ago, BM got the skids a puppy!! - She gave it to them the day before they were due to stay with their dad for the first time in 2 years in the hope that it would make them resent having to stay with us instead of her. It didn't they loved it here and still do. She's always trying to buy them off rather than actually parent them! Also I too am the one they tell when the s**t hits the fan at home and its heartbreaking to have to listen to knowing I can't do anything about it.
Its not heartless to wonder why a mother wouldn't care enough to fight for her child, yet would try to buy the kid off and score points with silly gifts which just confuses the situation...

BM did that when SS lived

BM did that when SS lived with us a few years ago. Since we work, we had the skids in boys n girls club for the summer. BM told SS about all the cool camping, fishing and day trips they were going to take that summer and he could go to if he chose to stay with BM.....judge gave DSO 100% physical and legal custody but she got them week on/week off in summer.

He listened to her and moved back with BM (other reasons involved). I asked him if they were doing all the cool stuff BM promised and he said 'No, Grandpa goes on the trips and won't take BM or him'. In other words, BM lied and so SS wouldn't blame her, she blamed her Dad. SS did get to walk to the river and fish though.

HRNYC, you really missed the

HRNYC, you really missed the mark. She's not bitching about the kid, she's bitching about a BM who calls her small child and makes wonderful promises crafted to purposefully make him miss his BM and wish to be with her, when she will not be coming to get him. It's heartbreaking.

And she has to deal with the fallout. How can you call that heartless? I call that heartFELT.