SOOO LIVID!
I just got a call from DH. He told me that he went through SD11's Ipod this morning. She was up texting her mom until 11 pm last night and called her at 11:30 pm. Apparently she was telling BM how mean DH and I to her and that she wants to come home. When yesterday she was asking DH if he had heard from our lawyer because she really wants to be with us for good!
SD tells us that she hates it at her mom's and that she just wants to live with her dad and I. BM was asking what was going on at our house and trying to pry information out of her. We also learned that SD is required to delete all of her text messages before she comes to our house.
DH was so pissed he told SD he doesn't want her to come back to our house ever again. He told SD that her and her mom deserve each other and he was done with her. I'm so pissed off that she would say things like this about us. When I asked what I did to her she said that I told her to stay away from her little sister because she was making her cry while DH was on the phone and that hurt her feelings. I said BOO WHO! You need to go back to your mom's! I am not dealing with this and I will NOT have MY kids taking after YOU! We take her back tomorrow. EFFIN BRAT!
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You are being played by a
You are being played by a teenage girl...That is just what they do. He did the right thing calling her out on it, but be prepared for fall out. DH did the same thing and now he only sees her once a month for lunch and the occasional text and she lives in the subdivision down the street from us.
DH was so pissed he told SD
DH was so pissed he told SD he doesn't want her to come back to our house ever again.
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Damn that was harsh to an 11 year old.
But I do understand how angry it makes you and DH. Ss used to do the same thing. Played DH and BM like a fiddle with that kind of crap. But it was DH and BMs fault. They always made SS feel like he had to choose who was the better parent so he felt he had to say that kind of stuff to which ever parent he was with at the time.
Sorry..no advice but it does suck for all of you.
Wow, that was harsh. She's 11
Wow, that was harsh. She's 11 and she's being played by her mother. Call her out on bs, but don't disinherit her for it. You guys went way over the top.
Agree with other posters. Way
Agree with other posters. Way too harsh. Its hard for them to have their loyalties questioned, especially to BM. I would have taken her ipod away. No way she gets it after 8PM or something. I definately would have laid down the law and told her that there is no way DH is going to allow her to play parents against each other.
Guess what? She gets NO SAY in custody matters. You guys shouldn't even be discussing it with her. She goes where she is told to go ... period.
We've only discussed custody
We've only discussed custody with her when she asks questions. She only knows to ask questions when her BM tells her she is going back to court again with us. We've never asked her to pick sides and have ALWAYS told her that we just want her to be happy no matter where she is.
She's also way to young to be
She's also way to young to be subjected to living with a man that her mom decided to marry AFTER he was charged with Raping a girl in their house. It was in the news she knows what going on we aren't going to hide anything from her. We are open and honest with her when it comes to custody.
This isn't the first time
This isn't the first time she's pulled a stunt like this. A few years ago she fessed up to trying to get my DH and I to fight because she wanted her BM and my DH to get back together. She was 3 when they divorced so it's not like she has fond memories of them being together. The Ipod is something that BM bought her for Christmas. She bought this after SD had a phone taken away at her BM's for calling a boy in her class 65 times in one night. SD is also texting her step sister literally every 10 mins to tell her how pretty she is and ask her why she's not talking to her since they are still sisters. She has done this so much that her step-sisters BM called my DH to tell him that she thought it was weird.
I don't think we went over the top at all. It's all been leading up to this. We thought she was turning around and then she proves us wrong once again. I think she needed to hear it and I will not stand for her acting this way in front MY children. DH did the right thing and I hope he stands by it.
There comes a time when you
There comes a time when you know right from wrong. She's 11 she knows right from wrong and she still chooses to make the wrong decisions. It's not BM's fault anymore.