ok so it was the after noon before thanksgiving. my boyfriends step son that he raised sense a baby because the kids mother died 10 years ago.. him and SD13 are half brother and sister. but he's living with us temporarily but he knows when asked to help he don't hesitate he does it. but I asked SD13 to do the dishes and boyfriends SS18 to help me clean the house he jumps up and started cleaning ,But SD13 just sat there! I told BF.SS18 gosh how long is she going to sit there and he goes in there and tells her you were told to do something so go do it. and she tells him which I think was directed to me "your not my mother quiet telling what to do!" so he tell her again then she gets up and starts the dishes she's slamming dishes on the counter and I told her ok quit before you brake something but she continues to do it. so after she washes and rinsed the dishes she leaves them on the counter and told her brother you know its your job so do it! and he didn't even want to argue with her so he does it and by that time he's already took the trash out of both the kitchen and the bathroom and picked up all the babies toys and cleaned the dinning room ect. and all she did was wash and rinse a couple dishes. so I got mad and told her now go clean your room so she goes in her room and slabs the door comes out 10 minutes later and does her hair and can you believe she never cleaned her room! I was so sick of how she was acting and let me add I'm so glade she's back in school lol