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A Fish Out Of Water

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Submitted by Jake on Sat, 12/05/2020 - 2:59pm

As a successful mature man of 61. I fell like I do not fit in this crazy world we live in.

I am married to the love of my life. College graduate, fantastic 35+ year career,

I was able to retire at 55 years of age. We own our home and are debt free.

My wife has four children from two previous marriages. We have been married for 34 year and

together 36 years. Travelled to Europe and New Zealand. The good old USA. We winter in

Mexico most years.

 

I have a courteous and somewhat respectful relationship with all of my step kids.

With no paternal ties, outside of being their mothers husband.

With all of this so called success I feel like I do not fit in this world. I feel like I was born at the

wrong time. Nothing make sense anymore to me. I am horrified by the Violence and

Entitlement I come across each day. The selfishness and absolute indifference people display

day to day is frightening.

 

I find that I prefer to disengage from most of the world. I find even family hard to spend time

with. I guess I do not feel I have anything in common with most people. Born into a modern

world with old fashion values. A reptile in a group of Homo-sapiens if you will. Lol.

A Renaissance Man if you will. lol  I am a Happy Person doing the best he can.

 

My personality trait is that of a Nurturer. I am a loving, kind, caring and gentle man.

I prefer to give than receive. I am appreciative of all I have and grateful for my life.

I can be extroverted and be quite social if I need to be.

I guess I am a family man without a family lol. Is it just me? Anybody else feel like a fish out of

water? Its like I am immersed in a distasteful culture with no intimacy on any level

 

 

                            Warmest regards Jake Merry Christmas to all of You. Thanks for all you do!

Comments

Rumplestiltskin's picture

Submitted by Rumplestiltskin on Sat, 12/05/2020 - 3:35pm

There probably are people around who you fit in with. There are all kinds of people out there. I feel like you do when i spend too much time on social media. A bunch of attention-seeking drama queens. But maybe that's just my feed lol. I'm trying to spend more time doing what i like. I spent all day today in the garden. It was great! I may also look for a club to join. Not sure what kind, but one where people do things. Like, maybe make things or play music. Idk. Worth a try. One thing i do know is that if i keep doing the same things with the same people, i'll keep feeling the same way.

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Submitted by Ispofacto on Mon, 12/07/2020 - 10:13am

I recommend The Social Dilemma on Netflix.  Part of the problem is the wingnuts on both sides are so loud, it seems like there are more of them than there actually are.  Both sides need to listen to alternate views with open minds.  I think descent people on both sides agree on a lot more than they think they do.

There's a lot of animosity on social media, but peole are super friendly to talk to in public.  I went to Target and Petsmart yesterday and got lassoed into long conversations with strangers at both stores.