He is such a pain the the FU***** Ass. Almost 18 years old and just totally pathetic. I married a man whose first wife had died when SS was 13. My H and I are constantly fighting about him. It is tearing our marriage apart. My H wants him to finish high school which is normally a good thing, but this kid is almost 18 and still taking mostly 9th grade classes. WHAT THE HELL??? By H keeps thinking he's "going to turn things around." This kid is such a manipulative, lying, conniving little creep. I can barely stand to be in the same room with him. And my H has an older friend with a second marriage and stepkids that are grown who tells him "Your kids are your responsibility and you should let them stay in your home and support them as long as they are in school and doing what they are supposed to." I think that is ridiculous. We can't afford to support this kid for the next four or five years. Then his friend had the nerve to say that "whoever is not following the house rules- kid or me- should be thrown out." My H knows that's not even an option. What rules are these - ones made up by my husband. He decided we weren't going to have a baby. He decided how long SS is going to be allowed to live here and under what circumstances. What makes me truly sick is that when the SS is away, we get along really well. We are relaxed and enjoy each other's company. I am also quite tired of my H dead wife. Everyone acts like she was so fuc**** perfect. "She just had an inner beauty that shown through." or "SHe just lit up a room and people gravitated towards her." Well, not to speak ill of the dead but what about the ultimatum she gave H when she "unintentionally" became pregnant. "marry me or I'll have an abortion." Doesn't sound like perfection to me. Or that she was a highly paid stripper in her younger days. SOmthing my H did not tell me about at all. I heard it from his sister-in-law. Just a question here, but how likely is it for two brown haired, brown eyed people to have a blonde haired blue eyed child. Kid looks nothing like my H, but h doesn't doubt for a minute he's his kid because she would never lie about that. Maybe he's right, but you would think it would cause a little suspicion. There is other stuff too. Of course SS doesn't know anything about any of this which is probably why he thinks his mother is so perfect. He's never going to find a girl that is going to live up to the image that he has in his head of his mother and I don't think that's a good thing. Especially since most of what he thinks isn't even true!