DH and teen SS battling it out
Monday afternoon DH was coming home from work and caught my older SS and his friends knocking over people's trashcans (luckily they were all empty since the garbage truck had come earlier in the day) in our neighborhood. He chewed all the boys out but especially read the riot act to SS and marched him home. I was in the house and saw SS come in all glumly with DH hot on his heels. DH started handing SS some cleaning supplies and told him to get to work then tacked on a few more chores to whatever he originally him to do.
I didn't say a word to SS bc I didn't want to embarrass him, it was obvious he'd just been knocked down a few pegs. DH went to go take a shower and while he was in there SS said "screw this" and walked out the front door. I thought he walked onto the porch and would come back in but nope, he completely left and walked to his mom's house. BM was at work at the time but I guess SS called her bc she called DH to find out what was going on. The fact that SS was knocking over other people's property sailed right over both SS and BM's head--the only issue to them is that DH humiliated SS in front of his friends and did some scary yelling. So BM told DH that SS was going to stay with her that night so there could be a cooling off period. DH said no problem and then got the black garbage bags out of the garage and went into SS's room and bagged up all his stuff except for his clothes.
This blow out between them came out of no where and now it's Wednesday and SS is still laying low at BM's house. We actually live in the same neighborhood (we live in their former marital home and BM lives in her mother's house around the corner...believe me I would love to move!) and SS is not leaving that house except to go to school, I'm sure he's afraid DH is going to spring out of the bushes at any moment and drag him back home. BM told DH that she is going away for Memorial Day weekend so she'll need to be rid of SS by then but she's not going to "throw my son into the lion's den" right now. Smh. I think DH honestly doesn't know what to do. This is the first time SS has ever done anything like this.
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Since you both live in the
Since you both live in the same neighborhood the punishment should be sticking at BM's house as well. Cooling off period my A$$ the trash cans that were knocked over were BM's neighbors also. That's not co parenting that BM babying SS. Good for your DH. I hope he is still on punishment when he returns from the protection of BM.
Yeah BM literally told DH "SS
Yeah BM literally told DH "SS didn't use good judgement but what teenage boy does? That doesn't make it okay but you made him feel small and that's not okay either."
DP has been getting on SD12
DP has been getting on SD12 more lately (thank you disengagement) because he's seeing and experiencing it directly.
I applaud a parent coming down with appropriate responses like your DH. Good for him. What you describe sounds great...he just made the mistake of getting in the shower (they will take any opportunity to shirk it!!)...but super for the room response too. I am crossing my fingers that's going to happen soon to SD12...
you made him feel small If
you made him feel small
If one of the neighbors had seen them, called the police, and they were charged with destruction of property, would the judge make him feel big?
Silly BM for delaying the punishment. Hopefully, DH keeps the same punishment and keeps the stuff in the plastic bags until he earns them back.
Silly BM for saying she's not throwing her kid under the bus now, and saying she'll do it Memorial Day weekend.
If DH stands strong reward him well.