Very Proud of my BD
Today, BD 25 said that she was going to try to reach out to SD 31 and invite her and her kids to an outing that BD pays for. Kid event that should be a good time for everyone. DH and I are invited too and I offered to take everyone out for dinner afterward. I am so proud of her for being the bigger person and trying to extend the olive branch (again). Will it work? Maybe not, we have had 15 years of SD31 being a princess. But I give BD credit for trying. Suddenly, I see BD as a young woman with a good head on her shoulders and a huge heart to take the risk and try again.
I called DH and told him what BD is going to do and he was stunned. He could not believe that she would go back and make any attempt at a relationship with SD. Next words out his mouth were about how mature and generous she is being - not like his own daughter who would not say "I was wrong" or "I'm sorry" if she had a blow torch to her body.
I know that I am jaded toward the princess and at this poing in life I always suspect the worse when I think about her. Maybe my daughter can share some of her hope with me.
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That's really awesome of your
That's really awesome of your BD. I wish mine would extend out a bit to me. As a SD, despite what the family says, it's been my sole burden to keep in touch. As the outsider, it's an awkward thing to do. I jump for freakin joy when my teenager half siblings comment of my Facebook. Good job mom raising a thoughtful daughter!
Sorry, I was not clear. SD31
Sorry, I was not clear. SD31 has always been the "princess" and expected others to treat her as such. Mostly she treated bd25 poorly because she does not bow to the princess. At Christmas, SD decided to be a brat (at the party). Since this was the first Holiday that bd hosted at her home it was particulatarly painful. Several days after it was over, bd texted sd to tell her she was unhappy with her behavior and sd want into a list of slights that she is unhappy with for the last 15 years. bd did not reply to that because she wanted to stay on topic for the behavior at this event. But seriously, what 31 year old is keeping track of items that a sibling did a decade ago?!?! I elected to call sd and tell her that I was disappointed in her behavior. She flat out told me she will never apologize because she did it on purpose.
I have all but washed my hands of sd31. I am proud that bd would even have the heart to try again with the relationship. Will it work? I don't have much hope but I believe that it a good thing to try.