Entitled Stepkids and their college education...
I am absolutely disgusted by the amount of entitlement these kids have with their education. Very frustrating for me today. Yesterday I received a letter from a young man in college in NY for Mathmetics in Secondary education. I met this young man when he was about 14 and had just moved to our town. I was the Committee Chair for my son's boy scout troop. A large troop with a 100 boys at the time. This young man impressed me then. He was great with the younger scouts. Unfortunately, his mom transferred to GA and then lost her job. Had sold her car and relocated here. She stuck it out for about 9 months, but couldn't find work. Economy was not great at that time.
They left and moved back to NY. Now the letter he wrote me, he remembered me saying I would help him find a job when he turned 18. My husband would have hired him, but not with him in school. At the time, I never thought this young man could go to college given his relationship. I had to have the troop pay for him to go to summer camp.
He is transferring here to GA to college her in the spring. He realizes that if he stays in NY due to his surroundings he will not graduate. I am sure it is gangs and just bad influences. I was so impressed with his letter writing, that I am determined to help him find a job when he gets here. He was not looking for money, he was looking for someone to help him since he can not afford to pay for on campus housing. He just wants a job to continue to get his degree. I may have found him a lead through Facebook.
His comments in the letter that he knew he would never get his degree due to his surroundings and he wanted to go back to a place that he knew and felt safe, broke my heart last night.
I am frustrated because I see my SD18 smoking pot on Twitter and yesterday it was coke on her finger. All while taking out loans and getting mom to pay. This young man just wants his degree and get out of a bad situation. He did just tell me he doesn't want to take out loans, because something keeps telling him that is a bad idea. So glad he gets it.
So my mission is to help him find a job so he can continue his education. If we could all just donate the money our stepkids are wasting, we could have one hell of a scholarship fund for the kids who want it and want to do it right.
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I am totally against giving
I am totally against giving kids money for college. I went to school as an adult student and one thing was painfully obvious: some people were there because they were working their asses off for it and other people were there as just "something to do" because someone else was footing the bill. I think college success rates would be higher if people went when THEY were ready, not just because they graduated from high school and didn't want to get a job. I'd donate to the college fund for people like this guy and other ADULTS...age doesn't matter in this case...he really seems more mature than many people his age.
I have mentioned it, as I am
I have mentioned it, as I am a military brat myself. I sent him off an email with lots of options. I did like the fact that he is in college now and is almost 21 and has no debt and wants to keep it that way.
I do have to respect that fact that the military is not for everyone. And from what I remember about this kid he was a gentle soul that made the younger kids gravitate towards him. I can remember the parents calling him the "Pied Piper" for the younger scouts.
Also he says his grades are 3.0. None of the military academies will take that. I had other scouts apply and they had 4.0 and higher and can't get in. He could enlist, but not sure what that would do with the education he already has obtained at the private college he is going to now in NY.
I have some leads to possible jobs there, now I am waiting on his resume to get it into some peoples hands. I just like that he wants to do this and remembered a conversation I had with him over 6 years ago.
Agreed. My parents couldn't
Agreed. My parents couldn't afford and probably wouldn't of paid for it if they could. I went to a private college and paid for it 100% myself. I had work study and two jobs.
What I can't understand is
What I can't understand is that here in MO they force divorced NCPs to pay half of the kids college and CS at the same time. CS goes to 21 here. My parents didn't pay for my college... they didn't have the money. I was stupid and took student loans though.. really wish I hadn't.
Same in NY. CS and college
Same in NY. CS and college too. My exH will never be able to afford both and I don't agree with this. I'm going to discuss the situation with him and work something else out. We haven't really followed much in our agreement since we get along so this will just be one more that we work out outside the courts. I also think that my BS should work also. We can't afford to just pay for it so he's going to have to. I paid for my own and I think it means a lot more when you work for something and pay for it yourself. My exH and I will help our son but he will have to do his part as well.
the Skids are smart kids and
the Skids are smart kids and I want them to go to college. they are also good kids for the most part. He can't afford to support himself as it is with the CS... don't know what he's going to do when it's time for college they are 11 and 12 so will be in college at the same time.
I went to college with a lot
I went to college with a lot of kids you didn't try very hard and didn't care since mommy and daddy were footing the bill. I know that isn't every kid but it happens a lot.
I worked my butt off because I couldn't afford to fail any classes, drop any or retake any.
SD and college, now that is
SD and college, now that is funny.