Court of Honor
Last night was SS18's Court of Honor. He was recognized for attaining the rank of Eagle Scout. I don't know how other troops do this ceremony but SS18's troop acknowledges each scout who has attained a new rank an that scout is called up to the stage with their parents and receives the new patch and there's a photo-op.
Well I've always found this awkward for SS18. Everyone knows that BM and DH are divorced. I've helped out at many scouting events and camps - I know everyone in the troop. BM's SO was in attendance last night too. BUT the Scoutmaster NEVER acknowledges stepparents EVER. So irritating.
But to me the funny things are the photo-ops. In all the photos over the years BM is beaming, SS18 looks like a dear in headlights, and DH looks like he's going to be sick. Last night was no different. Too funny.
DH sat down after the picture and whispered on my ear "I'm so happy to be done with this sh*t. I can't stand being near BM for these things." 
~BettyRay
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It is about him. I'm proud
It is about him. I'm proud of him. I was just making a personal observation. Didn't mean to offend.
~BettyRay
I have mixed feelings about
I have mixed feelings about scouting. I think some of the badges SS18 had to work very hard to get but others not so much. SS18 wanted to go to Sea Base and after he did that his interest in scouts slacked off. He joined for the trip to SD, Sea Base, summer camps and weekend jam-o-rees. I think his motivation was camping and travel.
Honestly, for Eagle Scout I feel like DH did the a lot of the work i.e. labor. SS18 picked a project building benches to be placed in a park - I found the bench design and DH spent weeks buying lumber and cutting the pieces, etc. So that on the day of the project when the volunteer scouts were there it got done assembly-line style like SS18 wanted. It also took place at our house so we were very involved.
The hardest part for SS18 was writing about the project, he hates to write. And after the project was complete SS18 procrastinated for almost a year before he got the paperwork side of the project done. And that was with DH constantly nagging SS18 to finish it.
~BettyRay
Yes DH should have - a long
Yes DH should have - a long time ago. But he's not the type to do something like that.
But the truth is these people know me, I've volunteered along side them at scout events, I've helped with set-up and clean-up at summer camp. But when it comes to this kind of stuff I'm invisible. I never bothered to say anything either because it's about SS18 and not about me.
I place blame on the adults, it's their failure as "leaders" to not acknowledge stepparents because it is awkward for them to acknowledge, not the kids or parents or stepparents.
~BettyRay
Wow why do people putting
Wow why do people putting this things together EVER acknowledge the steps in these situations. No one wants a current photo with their ex hanging around in their house. They should have both "families" come up and take one photo with each if so desired.
>>do people putting this
>>do people putting this things together EVER acknowledge the steps in these situations<<
Based on my experience no. That would be nice, but I don't see that happening any time soon.
~BettyRay
My son was in the scouts and
My son was in the scouts and only liked 2 badges being Eagle. He loved it and I loved it for him. He learned a lot, and had a lot of fun doing it. Where we lived at the time they had great scout leaders, I think that makes a big difference in what they learn and if they enjoy it or not. Once my son learned about girls he kinda lost interest though. Being an Eagle scout is a big deal when it comes to scholarships, resume's, and the military. Even if you and your DH had to help it will pay off for you I think, make sure and put that on scholarship forms and if he goes in the military it moves them up a rank right off the bat, or at least in the Marine's it does.
The leaders make all the
The leaders make all the difference. SS18 started to really lose interest when a new Scoutmaster took over.
>>Being an Eagle scout is a big deal when it comes to scholarships, resume's, and the military.<<
This is why DH nagged him to get it done. SS18 is now eligible for a scholarship at the uber-expensive college he is attending in fall.
~BettyRay