So much has happened with BM and SD14. We are giving up custody of her, but BM has to sign a document forgoing any support and making provisions for SS11. We are asking that if he wants to live with either parent such as SD14 has done, the other parent can't fight it. It may backfire on us, but we think that in a years time he would rather be with his dad and not his sister and SS15 and their daily drama. She refuses to sign it. Despite telling DH that she doesn't want CS. She now does at the advice of her lawyer. She makes about 40K a year more than DH. Now the drama. DH found out that SD14 was planning on going to CA to visit her other SS18 for her graduation from HS. However, BM is not going. This is against the CO. Not to mention if you are in process, you can't take the child out of the county. So DH's lawyers called hers. Hers had no idea. Then DH gets a VM, refuses to answer the phone at the advice of the lawyers. Now an email this morning. She actually had the SD14 contact his DH's sister who lives out there to spend time with her and take her to Disneyland. Unbelievable. THis child has laughed at her dad and caused a nervous breakdown and get rewarded to a trip to Disneyland with her Aunt. BM is playing up the fact that it is his sister. She had her call so as to make herself look good. Yet, how could she not realize that she has to get DH's permission to go? Stupid...

Now Aunt knows all of this has been going on. We think she is going along with it to talk some sense into SD. DH will do what his lawyers suggest, but they leave tomorrow and he has not given permission. The email goes on to say that SD14 will not be with the other SS18 for any real length of time. For those that don't know both of these SD's from the new husband of BM, have been expelled by our school district.

Since starting this DH has come home from meeting with the lawyers and they have recommended that he give permission for her to go. Now the lawyers are drafting something and her lawyer has to haul ass to get a judge to sign off on it before he goes home at 3:00PM. Funny she started this and now she seems confused that she can't just let SD go with her husband out of state.

I spent last night trying to console SS11 because he was upset about everything going on. I asked him if he wanted to go shopping or DH for father's day. He said he wanted to make a card for him. But, then he stated he was really mad at SD14 because she was going to get her SD a gift and a card for Father's Day and not DH. Then he started crying and came over to me. It was just us in the room. I spent the next few minutes consoling him that this has nothing to do with him, it is about SD14 being a teenager and that his dad was going to do whatever he wanted and that we were only concerned about him. He asked me to make sure that the judge knew that he wanted things to stay the way they are for him. He wanted nothing to do with what his sister was saying. He stated that she was saying really mean things about her dad. I told him that you know the truth about what was going on and that we would do what was best for him. He was good then and then DH walked in. After that I had a breakdown (quietly) and my poor husband had to console me. This is just awful. I just want it to all go away. DH still thinks that SD will get fed up and want to come back. He said she can and when the papers are signed for that change, then he will try and undo the damage that BM has done by being so permissive. Great! I get to do this all over again.

Well, now I am going to take time off to take SS11 shopping this afternoon. I made sure that I am not going to get in trouble with BM, but I want to get this kid out of the house. He loves to vegetate and that is fine, but when he is the only one here, he can go all day and not come out of his room. BM may not care about him but, I do. I will not let this child believe what is being said. We show kids who we are by our actions. She says mean horrible things about me to SS. I have to undo that and if it means spending afternoons at the book store and the Game stop, then I will. God how I hate that woman.