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Annanymous's picture

SD14 hasn't been doing homework and lies and sAys she has none. Then I have to rent a movie for her to make it up a report they did on a movie they watched in class. Then on and on always forget to or some teacher didn't tell her.

So yesterday she asks for $12 for a t-shirt at school. No one gave her the paper to send home to buy it... hmm..

So today she calls at 8:07and asks me to call her teacher and give her permission to do a special challenges dance with a friend. Where was the permission slip? 0 no one gave it to her. Uh huh. I spoke to my husband on text at his work and of course he wants me to call and give her permission but I said this is the last time she is nuts going to keep leaving things not bringing them home blaming other people and then getting her way. I told the dollar step daughter this is the last time don't call me ever again for permission slips or money or anything of that nature that you should have brought home to be signed. When you start turning homework on time instead of thinking you're special and can do it whenever you feel like it and you start bringing papers home like a normal kid instead of a special princess who doesn't have to then if something happens if you have a situation sure we would call at the last minute but this is complete b******* every single paper every single assignment and every single permission slip she has some b******* excuse the teachers wouldn't give it to her or they forgot.

this is text to speech on my phone so if there's a few wonky things in there that is why lol

I am I supposed to be this engaging but it is really hard after raising this brat for 10 years. To keep my mouth shut and not call her out on her b******* .

remember last weekend she snuck to a high school party wearing booty shorts and a spaghetti strap tank top in February in Tennessee looking like a s*** at the age of 14 is middle school and she had the nerve to ask if she could go back to that friends house the one she spent the night with last weekend and stop the party with and a little a****** ass to my husband if she could go back to that friends house because the 17 year old sisters having a party! Yeah there was drinking in pot and she smokes cigarettes at the last party but God its been a whole week and she was honest and ask to go to the high school party this time so God what are problems lol I really cannot stand this girl.

I have been praying for patients and tolerance with this manipulative lying girl. I am trying so hard to keep my mouth shut and not call her out with her lies and manipulation. We spend $200 a month for her to go complain about me exaggerate things are flat out lie about me to a therapist she trashes me two neighbors and then turn around and playing with the neighbor tried to molest her when she got mad as a neighbor. I don't know its true or not but 90 percent of what she's ever said has been a lie or a manipulation so why would I believe her.

I am working as hard as I can to keep my mouth shut and never call her outand to disengage. Boy that is really hard when you have done so much for 10 years but I really want to disengage. The funniest thing is as much as she is trashed me to a teacher 2 years ago for pity claiming that I was mean to her and she had a horrible home life and then trashing me to this neighbor and she says things to my in laws like why doesn't my mommy loves me or why doesn't mama tell me things or care how I feel. Can you people not see the manipulation here? They say you poor little bit of used creature! Bit of used was supposed to say abused. Anyway, she also made up grab an exaggerated to my cousin I had hoped to be friends with and met for the first time she drug the woman to another room and told her she is grounded her whole life locked in her room with no light bulb forced to eat in there and never allowed to come downstairs or turn on the lights if she doesn't remember how long is being and she has no idea why she is grounded over and over she doesn't remember not being grounded... That psychopath is rarely grounded some more than just the phone and then its a weekend or a week just from the phone! We still even let the little psychopaths use my phone to text her sister grandparents or mother! The only time she has ever been locked in her room with the light off was her going in there on her own having a tantrum! She is in the living room with me from 4 p.m. Until 9 p.m. When we go to bed! We have dinner with her we watch TV with her we listen to just har har har but when it's not all about her god help us.

God I cannot stand this brat I feel like such a bad person because I just don't like her I don't trust anything she says I think she is nothing but a manipulative liar and I can't stand being around her! No I don't forgive her for the past two years. No I do not want to adopt her! That's just another manipulations. she's been saying she wants me to Dr the past two years at she's been a total psychopath but it is very obvious what she is doing.how do I survive another 4 years with a borderline teen girls manipulation and lies. The only thing I can do is keep my mouth shutand I wash my hands of her.

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constantly_irritated's picture

It sucks because if you wash your hands of her and she goes down a bad path, you're the one to blame, and if you keep being involved and she goes down a bad path, you're STILL to blame. Just think, in 4 more years you can legally kick her out Smile

attempting_to_maintain_composure's picture

I don't think it makes you petty to not want to be treated the way she treats you. It's perfectly normal to not want to be lied to and to get frustrated when it happens. It's also perfectly normal to not want to be treated like a servant at SD's beck and call. And it sounds like your DH expects that as well. Stick to your guns. If SD doesn't bring home a permission slip to be signed, then she doesn't have permission to do whatever it was for. If she doesnt' bring home an order form for a t-shirt, she doesn't get to demand the money from you last minute. If SD claims she has no homework but then suddenly realizes she has to write a paper about a movie she watched in class, that's on her. It's not up to you to make sure she gets it done or has the movie to watch again. Just out of curiosity, what is DH's role in all of this? What does he say or do about SD lying about you and failing to do school related stuff on time? I know your previous blogs say DH works late so he can't field homework issues, but I'm just curious about his feelings on how SD treats you.

simifan's picture

I believe the word you are looking for is No! If you can't manage that, "ask your father."

Annanymous's picture

Police didn't follow it. They investigate and didn't think anything happened. Her story changed a lot and she claimed he PATTED HER OUTTER THIGH... she claimed he showed her porn but story changed a lot.

She's in weekly therapy.

I've been great with NO for years, that's when she tantrums and exaggerates about me and how she's mistreated. Lol

Dad started parenting last year (before I did everything) and we are working on him handling g everything with her but its a transition. When I correct her or say no she acts all butt hurt. Gets u dDer my skin.

Dad is doing all discipline and permission now but I'm still working on keeping my mouth shut. Oh dh is aware of her diagnosis and behavior.