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Bill Cosby's rule of raising children

just.his.wife's picture

Submitted by just.his.wife on Wed, 01/16/2013 - 7:44am

"I brought you into this world, I will take you out." I am about to enact this rule on my DD21.

Senior in college.
Very pretty girl
Great personality
Intelligent
Logical (normally)
Sympathetic
Would give you the shirt off her back...

And then we have her boyfriend.
29
unemployed- I swear he is allergic to work of any kind
lives with mommy and daddy
did I mention the poorly cut- badly dyed- two foot tall Purplish/pinkish/maroon mowhawk?
The pot belly?
The 12 piercings in his ears?
The tattoos on his neck and hands that ensure he will never get a respectable job?
At 29 he is in school for his 4th degree- no.. he never finished the first three.

But she loooooves him. Which is why she spends all her $$ on him. She is currently sitting in a house, without electricity. WHy?? Because it was her turn to pay the electric bill... and she spent the $$ on her boyfriend because his POS motorcycle (an 82 kowasaki) broke down and he needed a part.

She assumed her brother would pick up her slack. Instead he picked up his shit and left to stay with a friend until she got the juice turned back on.

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Aeron's picture

Submitted by Aeron on Wed, 01/16/2013 - 7:57am

Oh for the love of....

I have a cousin that is this... I hesitate to say stupid, but delusional? Blinded? Suffering from temporary insanity?

Cuz found such a loser, married him, has a baby with him, but because neither of them can get or keep a job they both live with their respective parents.

Hopefully brother's actions will help her get a clue. I do not, can not, understand the ability to overlook the massive failings of a boyfriend. Love is not enough. It will not feed you or keep you dry and healthy when you're in love with a loser.

Sorry for you that she's lost in la la love land.

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Submitted by Lalena75 on Wed, 01/16/2013 - 8:28am

Let her fall on her ass, it's the same advice I gave my own parents in regards to my cousin they had guardianship of and was making poor choices. Don't run to her rescue, don't give her money and if she comes to vent about her situation tell her she chose the mess she has to deal with it that's what adults do, and end the discussion. good for your son not bailing her out, when there's nowhere left to go and no one helps the bottom of the hole starts to suck, resentment builds and you climb out on your own it's the only way to learn.