After spending a couple of months reading the blogs on the site I decided to join!*biggrin* I was reluctant at first because I don't believe in speaking to others about my family life but I've got to vent somewhere some how about my blending family life! So here goes! 
 

My SO and I have been together for almost two years now. I have one BS 8yr. My SO has three. So my satellite children are SD 10yrs, SD 8yrs, and SS 6yrs. 
 

In the beginning I was head over heels with my SO's children. I didn't mind at all that there was three of them and thought the more the merrier and my BS would love having other children to be around. They visit every Wednesday and every other weekend. My own is a bit of a terror he has a a lot going on where I believe  my EX causes my BS to hate me and give me a hard time. Long story short there is a lot of parent alienation going on on my BS's fathers part and his girlfriend of 5 years. So that is already tough for me and now I am in the middle of our second custody battle because back in July my BS's father drove intoxicated and crashed into a bridge with my BS in the car. So anyway back on to my current situation.... My SO's kids and I got along great! I had fun doing crafts and playing games with them. I took them all into my apartment with open arms once my SO eventually moved in to my two bedroom apartment with me. I spoke with my BS about sharing and not having to share and that these kids would be around a lot more and they will want to play with toys and utilize your space. My BS accepted this very well. He had some outbreaks of anger while playing with games and sometimes loosing but he has gotten a lot better. Currently he has a good relationship with my SS. My SS really looks up to him. I worked full time and had an after school program set up for my son. So my job and childcare were all taken care of. I cleaned and cooked and did everyone's laundry without complaints. I did a lot of the grocery shopping. My SO paid half of rent and began pitching in. Things were really good. I eventually started watching the children for my SO because he is a Bartender and usually works nights. I wanted him to still be able to see his kids during his time instead of them just staying with their BM. They were good at first. I took all three of them on outings, errend runs and laundry runs! I felt amazing that I was doing so well with them. My SO and I found a good deal on a house for rent and moved in. We bought a new couch and I had to bring the three of the Skids in with me one Saturday morning to finalize the delivery paperwork. Well little did I know my SO'syoungest takes naps during every car ride and that he couldn't be a big boy and get up and walk. He was 5 at the time.... so okay.... someone should have told me this kid needed time to wake up because when we got in that store he threw himself to the floor and started throwing a fit. Of course use three girls had to use the bathroom that was LOCATED all the way in the back of the furniture store. I asked the girls what their mother does to calm him down because there were no carts to put him in and it was the last day I had to fill those papers out. So I picked him up and it was difficult to hold him because he was squirming and it was akward because he was telling me to let go and I'm not his parent but I was the only adult there and we all had things to do and needed to get going. From there the SKids have been a bit different to me because I called their father and said I will not watch them anymore if they cannot behave. I have to many errends to run on the weekends where I work full time all week. When we settled into the house were excited to decorate the rooms for the kids and really start bringing us all together as a family. Then BAM I had to go to court and the attorney fees are almost to much to bear! 
 

so there has been a lot of stress financially and I feel like since we've moved into this house the kids have been a bit different... I can't put my foot on it like they are jealous that their Dad is actually moving on. SO doesn't think that he says the SSkids are fine they don't care. Well eventually I start getting fed up and have been since the apartment because SO's children eat more than I have every seen children eat. I'm talking full three meals and a demand for at least two snacks in between those meals and a dessert. Which is fine IF HE PITCHED IN MORE ON GROCERIES! And half the snacks were my BS's school snacks.  I honestly felt bad for getting irritated in the beginning because I told myself who cares they are kids we can always buy more.  It when we moved into this house I started realizing more and more how they eat, how things are constantly being blamed on my son, how they literally use all of his things and don't appreciate it, they never clean up after them selves, and have poor hygiene. I used to try to discipline them at a minimum because I've been stuck watching them a lot. Their BM has even not showed up at a few of the times she was supposed to pick them up now word from her at all. She thinks can drop the kids on us whenever and that we have to deal. I don't mind if she asks so we can prepare but this dumping them on us is not okay. I'm working on getting my SO to squash all that childish stuff. THEN after all I have done and given these children the middle SD8 says I don't have to listen to you you're not my mom. Then starts giving me dirty looks and sticks her tounge out at me ever since..... I'm like what!!!? I couldn't understand the change and what happened because I honestly thought I was doing my best not to be to intrusive except for the fact I was usually the only adult responsible for them. I Thinktnhe responsibility of me watching them came on to quickly and I shouldn't have offered to be the one to watch them. 
 

sorry for such a long intro. But I have been thinking and I have decided that my BS can share with the SSkids when he is home and chooses to. So I took all of his things out of the play room and put them back in his room. I took my SS's clothes and toys and put them in the girls room and decided they can all share a space. If they can't be appreciative for my BS's efforts then they don't get the luxury of playing with his stuff. Which is all the stuff they really have except for a few th obvs. My SO hasn't really provided to to much for them to have here. I feel sorry for them and wish I didn't feel like I have to do this but I really think it's best. We are also moving here pretty soon. We rented from a military family and they are coming home soon. We want to be closer to our family and to a school that has a rec. program because I ended up loosing my personal babysitter and job because elf the lack of childcare in this country town. 
 

Anyway we have a townhouse picked out... it's a two bedroom and there's a loft on the third floor. I'm thinking of making that a kids space and the SSkids stuff can just go up there..... do you guys think that would be good or should I let them share my BS's rooms and things like previously? The SS kids only spend thre night every other weekend and my BS is with his father every weekend. I'm just torn.... I feel awful because they don't have much of I separate everything or their own space really except the loft. I also can't help but wonder what things will be like in the next few years when they get older and need their own rooms....

Thank you for th one of you who have taken the time to read this! I'm really hoping this will help me☺️