I was in tears yesterday. I called our lawyer to find out if they had the date. He was out of the office but his secretary told me that we did get it, it was the day before my kids leave for California for 9 weeks and 2 days after DH reports to his new command. I didn't even know what to do, so I sat at my desk and cried for a little while trying to figure out how to make it all work- Well, it won't. 

Texted the lawyer told him that the date was impossible for us. He said no problem, cancelled BM being served and rescheduled. May 29th it is! Much better! It does still mean that DH and I will fly to SS state for the hearing and then back and then the following week we will fly back with my bio's and SS19 for SIL wedding but at least it is happening and I don't have to choose between DH/SS and seeing my bio's off for 9 weeks to see their dad. DH doesn't run the risk of his new command telling him no- which is something that he wouldn't even know until 2 days before the hearing. 

BM is being served with the new date this morning, apparently the local sheriff "knows exactly who she is and where to find her". We know where she lives, she just won't admit to the court that she lives with her BF. The sheriff was the same one who told us to file the Writ of Assistance so that they could help us get SS for visitation. So now we wait for another month+ and prepare... 

Questions! Since we are no longer just going for visitation to finally be settled but the full flip (backed by the GAL):

1. We live in one of the top school districts in the country- should I have those stats along with things like our county requires that students test 10 points above the state pass/fail scores? Low crime/ high income county. None of this title 1 crap....
2. DH is military. He always wears a dress uniform to court. I am worried that in podunk that his uniform is more hurtful to his case than he realizes. They are seemingly not supportive of him being active duty. Does anyone else have experience in something like this? Should he wear a regular suit?
3. When a custody flip happens (BIG IF HERE!!!!), but if it does... does the kid usually go with the new custodial parent immediately? We are worried she will disappear with SS- like for real. 

I still don't know what I want the outcome of this hearing to be. I just want my husband to be able to be the father he is trying to hard to be. I feel like I am still secretly wishing (DH believe that this is all that will happen, but with a GAL recommending a flip I don't know) that visitation will be solidified and we will get the standard out of state visitation that DH has been fighting for, for 6 years now. I hate that BM has been able to drag this crap out this long. Here's hoping we are looking at the end of court drama for a while!