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T-minus 60 minutes until SS is supposed to be on the plane

justmakingthebest's picture

Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 7:28am

We still have no idea if he is coming.

"His room"- Really the guest room is not clean. I haven't touched it since BS16's friends stayed the night a few weeks ago. That door gets closed and I just haven't dealt with it. I have no plans to. 

DH asked if I though he was going to show. I told him I honestly have no idea. BM still wants her $ and that isn't settled yet, so because of that I am giving it a 50/50. If money wasn't on the table, I would say 100% no. But SS is her big pay check and I'm not sure she will mess that up- but he is 17 so who knows. 

I am getting ready to do a grocery order and I used to take time to order things that I know he would like, but nah. I will just order like I normally do. DH can take him to the store later if he shows. 

All I really need to do is put away any alcohol... the rest DH can deal with. Not my problem. Plus I am "SUPER BUSY" at work and will probably have to work late most days this week. That just "stinks", doesn't it? 

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 8:05am

Remind me again - when does CS end?  Or is it the backpay that is the real prize here?

My guess is no SS but BM still goes for all the cash anyway betting on a sympathic local judge who will take pity on poor little innocent BM who needs protecting from the DC area city slicker bullies.  (I hope that he doesn't come to visit but that my prediction about the judge is wrong)

Did you have a good time out yesterday for your DH's birthday?

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 8:09am

Back pay is the big prize but I am fairly certain that will go down to a fair number, especially now that we have her documented as working. 

We had a great weekend! I took him out to Harpers Ferry and then into Leesburg for some brewery hopping. Got a hotel and stayed the night. Then yesterday we met my  family for a Sushi dinner. He was happy and celebrated! I am glad that I didn't plan anything around SS and I think DH really was too. 

I called the airline, they should call me back in about 45 mins (15 mins prior to departure) we will find out if he has checked in or not and if not I will work on a refund if possible. I was able to do that for one Christmas. So fingers crossed!! 

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 8:16am

Sounds like a lovely celebration and fun weekend.

If he's not on the flight, I hope you get a refund.  

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Submitted by ndc on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 8:05am

So if you don't hear anything, is someone going to the airport to pick him up? Will the airline tell you if he's on the plane?

If I had to guess, I'd say you're in luck and he'll be a no-show.

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 8:10am

DH is planning on going, but I will hopefully know before that time for him. It's 30 mins through bridge tunnel traffic at rush hour, so if he doesn't need to go- He NEEDS to know. 

I sure hope you are right!!!

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 9:56am

@$#&^!!!!

He is on the dang plane. 

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Submitted by AgedOut on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 10:01am

I was kind of hoping he wouldn't be. Stick with your plans and don't let him be king of the house. 

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Submitted by NotYourAverageS... on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 10:03am

he is only on the plane because money is on the line. Try to keep busy so it is less time with him! Also, make the pecan pie!

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 10:03am

I'm sorry.

And you can't even use alcohol to self medicate.  *drinks* Diablo

How much time does your DH have to be at work?  I know he's military so has a rigid schedule.

Are your bios around?  If so I wish you, them and SS21 could all go on a mini break elsewhere without DH and SS. *give_rose*

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Submitted by ESMOD on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 3:13pm

I would be using alcohol... lol.  I would not give a crap... just pour me a strong one.. sit on the porch and rock.. he can leave me TF alone if he doesn't want to watch someone have a drink.  

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 11:28am

Airline. Neither him or BM will respond to me if he is on the plane. I told them both that DH would need to leave work early and I need to get word to the ship and DH has no access to his cell. This is so dumb. A HUGE freaking part of me wants to tell DH that if he got nothing from them to just wait for a call that he arrived. It would be a 45min-hour to go get him at that time of day. He can just sit at the airport and wait. Screw him. Screw BM. !@#(@&*$(@&*(!@&$()*$&#&*^%&*#!!!! 

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Submitted by ndc on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 12:14pm

For sure let him sit there until he calls or texts. Is this the last visit before he turns 18?

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 10:08am

this is just kabuki theatre for the fake back CS money.    Just do normal stuff as though he wasn't even there and yeah its a doggone SHAME you have to work late/go out with bios every night of the week!

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Submitted by strugglingSM on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 10:19am

Since he's getting close to age 18 (not sure if CS cuts off then or later in your state), he may also start making nice to ensure he can ask for money after he turns 18. I doubt BM will go quietly into the night about losing funding...

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 11:30am

We are on the hook for 15 more months. He has to graduate HS and he was one of those ones with a weird birthday so he is the oldest in his class. 

But 15 months does sound kind of cool to write!! 

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Submitted by ESMOD on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 11:41am

Whelp... looks like you have to prepare for SS's visit then.. to me that would consist of throwing a clean set of sheets in the room so he can get his bed ready for himself.  I would be doing nothing more.. (other than having more volume of food available really).  I would be civil but not go out of my way to plan a damn thing for this kid.

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Submitted by bananaseedo on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 12:00pm

Make him wait, and also make him set up his room.  That's what he gets for not bothering to notify his father that he's coming. There has to be some consequence for his actions.  

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 12:03pm

Y'all I am so mad I can't even stand it. I'm SHAKING right now. 

I know I need to disengage but all I want to do is RAGE. Like I am at a very unhealthy level of anger at this asshat. I can't even compartmentalize and do my job. I have so much to do at work but I am obsessing and that is not ok. I stopped keeping my xanex in my purse since I haven't had a full on panic attack in so long but I feel like this is going to turn into one. I am just not ok right now! 

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 12:11pm

a rerun of Bob Ross?  That helps calm down Chef!

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Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 12:15pm

I totally understand your rage, I would be furious as well. Can you take a break? Even 5 minutes? Take a quick walk and do some deep breathing - or screaming - whatever you need to do. If you need a xanex, do what you need to do to get one. Your anger is justified, but for your sake you need to get a handle on it. I am so sorry you are in this situation!

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Submitted by Ursula on Mon, 03/14/2022 - 2:41pm

Ugh, sorry! I was hoping he would be a no show.  I would do nothing for this little a hole.  He should have to wait at the airport since neither he or his see you next tuesday of a mother could bother to let you know he was on the plane.  

How long will he be with you all?