I knew it wouldn't be easy, but I didn't realize how bad it would be. Or the negative impact it would have on my mental, emotional and physical health.
Same here. I had no clue it would be so bad and would have never imagined I would be so mentally, emotionally, and physically affected and wore completely ragged.
I didn't think i would be constantly, angry or think so much about how they effect our lives. As much as BM and the SD's frustrate me along with the in laws and a DH, it's why I let it consume me that suprises me the most.
I didn't think it was going to be all rainbows or like the Brady Bunch. I grew up with SPs and step siblings.
What I didn't know was how evil bm would be. I didn't know she'd hate dh more than she loved her kids. I didn't know about pas. And I certainly didn't think that she'd be so evil as to let her kids get molested or to be so public regarding her enjoyment about my miscarriage.
I wasn't worried about it. No BM in the picture and I had already raised my 3 kids so I thought this is cool. Hit me like a freaking brick wall! It is the absolute, most difficult, irritating and stressful thing I have ever decided to do in my entire life...
I was naive enough to think that we could all work together to raise the skids. I figured ALL OF US would have the best interests of the skids in mind.
I had no idea what kind of mental instability I was going to have to deal with. DH told me she was "psycho" but guys throw that word around a lot about ex-GFs. I figured she's get past it.
Raising my hand! I sure did. even though I'd been a sm once before with bad results. THIS time was going to be different-as my ss was not even two yet when dh and I met. I thought-i get this one from a young age and can influence him and shape him (my dh had custody as well). HA! What a freaking nightmare it has been!
I never thought it was going to be easy; but it is a nightmare. I raised 3 kids to adulthood. Not much problems with them. Dh has two adult kids who I have a good relationship with. My oldest stepdaughter is like another daughter to me. Her mom and I get along fine. DH's youngest daughter (Bm died when she was about 13)has been a nightmare She has had no contact with us for almost a year now. Her choice. I must admit our lives and family gatherings are fun and enjoyable now. No stress, no walking on eggshells.
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I knew it wouldn't be easy,
I knew it wouldn't be easy, but I didn't realize how bad it would be. Or the negative impact it would have on my mental, emotional and physical health.
Same here. I had no clue it
Same here. I had no clue it would be so bad and would have never imagined I would be so mentally, emotionally, and physically affected and wore completely ragged.
I didn't think i would be
I didn't think i would be constantly, angry or think so much about how they effect our lives. As much as BM and the SD's frustrate me along with the in laws and a DH, it's why I let it consume me that suprises me the most.
I once thought it was going
I once thought it was going to be easy till I moved in:(
I didn't think it was going
I didn't think it was going to be all rainbows or like the Brady Bunch. I grew up with SPs and step siblings.
What I didn't know was how evil bm would be. I didn't know she'd hate dh more than she loved her kids. I didn't know about pas. And I certainly didn't think that she'd be so evil as to let her kids get molested or to be so public regarding her enjoyment about my miscarriage.
I didn't think it would be
I didn't think it would be easy, but I didn't think it'd be this hard either.
I wasn't worried about it.
I wasn't worried about it. No BM in the picture and I had already raised my 3 kids so I thought this is cool. Hit me like a freaking brick wall! It is the absolute, most difficult, irritating and stressful thing I have ever decided to do in my entire life...
I was naive enough to think
I was naive enough to think that we could all work together to raise the skids. I figured ALL OF US would have the best interests of the skids in mind.
I had no idea what kind of mental instability I was going to have to deal with. DH told me she was "psycho" but guys throw that word around a lot about ex-GFs. I figured she's get past it.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA - joke's on me.
Raising my hand! I sure did.
Raising my hand! I sure did. even though I'd been a sm once before with bad results. THIS time was going to be different-as my ss was not even two yet when dh and I met. I thought-i get this one from a young age and can influence him and shape him (my dh had custody as well). HA! What a freaking nightmare it has been!
I never thought it was going
I never thought it was going to be easy; but it is a nightmare. I raised 3 kids to adulthood. Not much problems with them. Dh has two adult kids who I have a good relationship with. My oldest stepdaughter is like another daughter to me. Her mom and I get along fine. DH's youngest daughter (Bm died when she was about 13)has been a nightmare She has had no contact with us for almost a year now. Her choice. I must admit our lives and family gatherings are fun and enjoyable now. No stress, no walking on eggshells.