So in January I gained custody of a young (13) teenage girl from a very abusive and horrible situation.

My grown SDs are 35 and 37.  (I have been their SM for over 20 years.  

We also have a 26 year old daughter, mine biological, adopted by my husband.

We have an 18 year old son together,

So my 35 year SD is married (#3) no judgement.  Has a 16 year old son, and 11 year old daughter.  Her Hubs has a 15 year old son (he has total custody..)  They now have a 7 month old baby boy.

SD was in terrible relations and I have to push her Dad sometimes to help her (more than sometimes, but a few years agao)

So my 13 year old daughter loves (d) to go over to spend night with her daughter (age 11).

Two things were happening unbenownst to me and my husband, until last week!

Our 13 year old was talking to me one night about life in general...then..

Apparently this SD has been talking to our 13 year old (talking lol) and some many lies..about me the SM.   Really I couldnt have dreamed this up!   I brought 13 year straight to my hubs and asked her to relate... He said to her "do not believe anything that comes out of her mouth".  the strangest thing she told her about was how I treated her differently when she lived with us....she has NEVER lived with us...and I hope that I wouldnt have treated a 13 year old the same as a 4 year old!  There was definetly more lies....

I would tell the other, but  it is most certainly not to be added here

A couple of weeks ago, I was in the hopital with our 18 year old son, who had had a crainectomy.

I was texting family about how he was doing... I texted the same SD and the first response I got was that she didnt kow anything about it, but she was sure our 26 year old daughter and her hub knew..

I was thinking WTF (probably outloud and my son said what's up... I explained to him and he said bull*/-+!  He had just saw them all Sunday and totally remembered for a fact, telling her and even explaining details...well, sometimes it it better not to say anything!  Ignored last messages from her.

We have also been dealing with her daughter taking things while she is at our house.   My husband has to have such  a careful relationship with the SD that he doesnt feel that ends would be justified.

Every year, Valentines, Mother's Day, Birthday and especially Christmas I bust my tail to ensure that both SD's love their gifts. Nothing in return, but the gift is in the giving, right??

I have been embarrassed every year to open a Christmas gift from her and to watch my hubs open form her.  His was always over the top...until 2019...No one in my house received any gifts from them...didn't stop her from showing off the expensive rifle she bought her husband.   

Lost in Louisiana