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Just Told DH I Hate SS21 F**king Guts

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Submitted by karenemoy on Fri, 07/08/2011 - 12:08pm

And I mean it, I hate him. Drug addict apologized to my DH as part of his recovery and there is no mention of what he did to ME! I was acting like his parent for years - he lived with us for years. Now I know from Day 1 he only pretended to like me because he wanted money.

I told DH he will not be at any family functions and he has to pay me back for the money I gave him for school.

Now I am going to focus on moving on. I will NEVER lay eyes on the loser ever again.

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Submitted by karenemoy on Fri, 07/08/2011 - 12:26pm

SS21 used me and lied to me for years. I had a very close relationship (so I thought) we used to have lunch together just the two of us a couple of times a week. Then last year we found out he was a drug addict - paid for rehab, everything.

Then he goes around telling everyone, and his dumb ass BM believed him, that I knew he was an addict and when he asked me for help I refused! A TOTAL LIE! Telling everyone I hate him - well now it is TRUE. I really do hate him.

I helped pay for this film school.

When I told DH he did not say anything. DH just wants to make sure SS21 does not come between us. Last year I almost walked out on my marriage because I could not take the enabling anymore.

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Submitted by UsedUp on Fri, 07/08/2011 - 3:05pm

As someone recently used in many the same ways I think you are doing the right thing. When people show you who they really are BELIEVE THEM and move on.

IMO an Addict is the most worthless piece of trash we have on this earth. Here is the kicker when they go to rehab they are taught how to lay the blame for all their problems at everyone else's feet since no way the ADDICT brought it on themselves.

I have two words to say to any addict or recovered addict. KEEP WALKING!

My Ex wife has been sober now for 2 whole years and is still just as unresponsible as she was drunk, lies just as much as she did drunk and for all intensive purposes has absolutely ZERO redeeming qualities left to her. She is nothing but a walking talking bullshit artist that cons all the other addicts. I can't even begin to imagine all the lying going on when the whole room is full of these worthless people. Users and abusers not worth the dirt on the bottom of my shoe.

Want to get screwed, help a addict or recovered addict long enough and you WILL BE SCREWED as sure as you will one day die.

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Submitted by MrsFitMama on Fri, 07/08/2011 - 3:09pm

21 is a very immature age. We have all done stupid things when we were young and I'm not giving him excuses but I know many addicts who have hurt their own parents to the very core because of ignorance, greed, and drugs. Drugs causes one to make decisions no one in their right mind would ever consider. They become desperate and will do anything to feed their addictions, at no cost to themselves at times.
Unfortunately, you are his SM, which means you most llikely don't have the unconditional love for him that BPs have for their child.
You are right... SS is terrible. And you have every reason to be angry and block him out of your life. But I hope you can, at the same time, forgive and move forward so you don't allow him to take any more happiness out of your life and marriage. Don't let his problems control you.