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Oh Shit! I think my Give-A-Damn is Busted!

katielee's picture

SD12 was in trouble at school again. I didn't even blink. Gave teacher my husband's phone number.

SD12 took a nap instead of doing her homework. {{{shrug}}}

SD12 did another shitty job on the dishes. Didn't even fuss. Just put them back in the sink.

BM texted and actually apologized about her refusal to include me in co-parenting in the past and would like me involved now. Again, didn't give a shit. DD had to talk me into being gracious and texting her back.

What's wrong with me??? Why do I suddenly just NOT CARE???

I think my Give-A-Damn finally got busted. I don't know if this is good or bad.

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Anon2009's picture

I think you did the right thing. Their kid, their problem. Maybe this will open their eyes a bit.

Jewals's picture

Been there done that & it turns into a damned if u do and damned if u don't every time ... If I don't give a crawl and say whatever and let DHbdo all the work regarding SKs it turns into I hate them & don't care... But when I try I'm to tough on them..

katielee's picture

But you really can't be damned if you do and damned if you don't if you don't give a damn either way, right? Maybe my busted Give-A-Damn is a good thing? Biggrin

twopines's picture

That's exactly it. I don't care if I'm damned if I do or damned if I don't, and it's very freeing.

Starla's picture

Mine broke too, wouldn't have it any other way either! Visits used to be dreadful for me and I was asked during midweek if I wanted to visit them that coming weekend but all I could reply with, was "eh I don't know yet, will decide when the time comes.". Best part, it didn't even kill my good mood for the remaining week nor did I stress myself over the thought of visiting. Just wait and see..it feels better than you can imagine after you do it for a while. Blum 3

Accordn2L's picture

You just got pushed to the point of no return. I'm there too. My new favorite saying is, "IDK ask your father". I used to get so bent out of shape about everything with SD8. Is her homework all done and signed, her laundry washed and ironed, her lunch packed just like she likes, etc... on and on. I tried to worry over her like I do my own BD11. But after 2 years of bullshit and never a thank you, instead she pisses on my stuff and smears shit on my walls. So now I snub her. It's not nice I know but I started having panic attacks and chest pains and I realized it was from the stress of that child. So now I worry about my BD11 who greatly appreciates all that I do for her and knows how to say thank you and I appreciate you doing so much for me!

I bet if you keep your don't give a damn attitude your SD might change her tune towards you, but if not, it's not like you give a damn! LOL You see what I did there? HAHAHA

katielee's picture

Yeah I totally see lol. Because I'm kinda the same way. Maybe she'll start to appreciate me more... eh? Maybe she won't. I really don't care. And I am liking it so far.

Accordn2L's picture

I see it basically as we are "taking our house back" so to speak. I'm the adult, I provide for this house and I'm damn well going to get to enjoy it too without a skid ruining it for me. SD8 comes back Sunday and I'm dreading it but I'm also pumping myself up and reminding myself I'm the adult, she's not my kid, and I deserve to be happy and let DAAAAADDDDDDDYYYYY handle his little creation!

katielee's picture

Yeah, I definitely feel more relaxed. Afraid my Give-A-Damn might randomly show back up cause I've decided at this point I don't want it.