HELP!
How many of you step parents feel this way? My 2SD have lied about me to their BM and that side of the family and for a while now is starting to lie about mY DH. Then they come down here and tell us lies about that side of the family, once we found out what they were doing I can say we stop trusting a lot of what they said. On the other hand BM side still hangs on every word that they say, which is 95% of the time BS about me! So I have told my DH when they are here I'm not doing any extra and for sure NO fun! My mom doesn't understand why and makes me feel bad for not wanting to do these things when the girls are here what do I do to make me and everyone happy?
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I can relate to the part
I can relate to the part about your mom. I disengaged from my sk's about a month ago. SD20 has a baby that is 5 1/2 months old that we were seeing regularly until all of the BS started. My mom started out calling my sd behind my back telling her that she wanted them to come over and asking her why we couldn't work out our differences. (Mom never said a word to me.) SD sends me nasty e-mails and starts telling me that I am tearing our family apart that even my mom is calling her everyday wanting them to come over so she can see the baby. I told my mom exactly what SD's e-mail said and told her that THIS is why I am not having anything to do with SD until she makes the situation right with me. I told her if she wants to see the baby, she can drive her happy butt over to SD's apartment and go see him.
Then tonight Mom says, "Why don't you call SD and ask her to bring the baby over for Thanksgiving?" I just looked at her, laughed, and told her she was unbelievable and there is NO WAY I am going to ALLOW ANYONE to talk to me the way SD does. I told her that if she wants to go over to SD's for Thanksgiving to feel free to do so because my kids and I will have a fine time without her or DH. I am SICK of being made out to be the bad guy, but I will be doggoned if I am going to keep putting up with SD's BS and her attitude and her malicious comments while everyone else just sits back and lets her walk all over them. NOPE.
Stick to your guns. If you need to disengage for your own emotional well being (which is exactly why I needed to do it) then you do what is best for you. You will have LOTS of support here if you don't have any at home.
I like that, Foxie! Sounds
I like that, Foxie! Sounds like something I would do! Less talk. Just a little action and watch the back paddling begin }:)
I like that, Foxie! Sounds
I like that, Foxie! Sounds like something I would do! Less talk. Just a little action and watch the back paddling begin }:)