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Submitted by Kmommyof388 on Wed, 08/15/2018 - 8:23pm

Still living with my mom and my children, their father sees them only on weekends his son isnt with (there was an incident last weekend that made my mom put her foot down and until that child is parented he is no longer welcome in her home) it looks like h is making real progress...although, i do get bothered here and there as to when i will be "home" this time away has really made me think about what I want what i need and whatni expect in no particular order a list

I will be respected in MY home

A child does NOT dictate how things are done in MY home

ALL rules will be followed and if they are not there will be disciplinary action immediately 

Everyone needs to clean up after themselves i will no longer be a maid 

Equal rules for all

 

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ndc's picture

Submitted by ndc on Wed, 08/15/2018 - 8:42pm

Just out of curiosity, what kind of progress is your husband making? Judging from the fact that SS is not welcome in your mother's home I'm guessing it's not parenting progress where SS is concerned.

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Submitted by Kmommyof388 on Wed, 08/15/2018 - 9:20pm

But, he has found a job and a therapist to help him deal with his anger and depression. He actually has seen the therapist and is trying to move on with how he treats people. The parenting thing has to be both his ex and him to figure out.. this last incident has me worried the boy is growing up to br a sociopath, it doesnt help that his mommy sees absolutely nothing wrong with the things he does (despite being kicked out of two kindergarten classes) they both need to agree on counseling for him as well.

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 08/16/2018 - 7:19am

Kicked out of Kindergarten? Twice? Okay, sure, he sounds absolutely fine and well adjusted.

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Submitted by ProbablyAlready... on Thu, 08/16/2018 - 7:40am

Kindergartners can be real terrors... I didn't realize they could get bad enough to be kicked out...  He must be a special kind of awful...

Shok

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Submitted by Kmommyof388 on Thu, 08/16/2018 - 12:48pm

I didnt think you could get kicked out but the teachers have literally tried everything they know and didnt have an improvement until he was moved to the third kindergarten class (this class was smaller and for kids with behavior issues) the first teacher kicked him out after two months because he wouldnt keep his hands to himself, straw that broke the camels back was when he shoved his classmate off monkey bars just cuz he couldnt make it to the end and his classmate could

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 08/16/2018 - 6:46am

I am so glad that you are staying strong! Has H invited you to counseling with him yet? 

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Submitted by Kmommyof388 on Thu, 08/16/2018 - 12:43pm

But havent actually gone, idk whats holding me back other than fear of being told by therapist its 100 percent me with the problems andni created them..

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 08/16/2018 - 1:06pm

You should go. If the therapist tried to tell you that you are creating problems, ask him/her what thier experience is with step life? How many couples does he/she counsel that have similar issues? How many couples has he/she brought back together when parenting styles are at a clash? When one parent feels like they have to protect thier biological children from thier father's outbursts? So on, etc. 

You aren't the problem here. 

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 08/16/2018 - 7:20am

Just remember, it takes a lot of time and hard work to actually change. And he has to really want to, for himself, not just for you and the kids.