Quick back story, MIL decided that her son and I (me especially) are horrible parents because SD (3.5 years) has to eat vegetables before she can have dessert. She and BM are now buddies and not only has she not talked to us or seen BD (16 months) in 6 months, she also called CAS and wrote up a list of lies in order to try to have SD taken away from us. CAS came to our home when we had SD and then came back a few weeks later after visiting BM and told us to keep doing exactly what we are doing and that BM was the one who they needed to work with.

DH and I were taking SD back to BM last night and we were talking about going sledding once we got our sleds back from my dads house. I told her that if there was enough snow before she came back to our house that she could ask her mom to take her sledding. She said "mommy doesn't have a sled." I said, "well there is one in MIL's backyard that she would probably let you borrow if your mom wanted to take you. Last year you were pulling BD all around MIL's back yard in it and you wouldn't let anyone help you. It was so cute." SD asked "mom, why do you and daddy not like MIL?" I replied with "It's not that we don't like her sweetheart, she has done some not nice things, but that isn't something that we should be talking about. All that matters is that you love MIL."

I knew that MIL would do whatever she could to try to get SD to not like us (she used to do and say things even when we all had a relationship and saw eachother several times a week.) but to be telling a 3 year old that her dad and step mom don't like her is not appropriate. I am amazed that SD even comes to our house at all with how many people are PASing her when she isn't here.

If only they knew that it is only her they are hurting.