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Submitted by Kristymac on Mon, 08/19/2019 - 9:34am

so, school has been in for exactly a week now, my SS has missed 2 days the first week. This is the 2nd week and he is still in the bed. That’s 1 day missed this week. Sorry i’m Not sorry. Your 18 and can do whatever you want! I’m 40 and I choose to not enable him anymore.

I am such an awful SM!! NOT!!! He can get his ass outta bed and get on the bus.

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Siemprematahari's picture

Submitted by Siemprematahari on Mon, 08/19/2019 - 9:38am

He's 18 you shouldn't have to do ANY of the above....please don't ever feel like you are obligated to get a grown @ss kid out of bed and off to school....not your responsibility or problem!

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Submitted by tog redux on Mon, 08/19/2019 - 9:39am

Yes, this. And especially not a rude and entitled kid who isn't your biological son.

Let your SO handle (or not handle) his son. 

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Submitted by ProbablyAlready... on Mon, 08/19/2019 - 9:44am

I don't get how kids cna be that way... By the time I was like 16 I was up and out of the house before my parents were even AWAKE.

Not your problem!!!

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Submitted by ChamomileTea4Me on Mon, 08/19/2019 - 10:24am

SD is 17 and I don't do anything when she oversleeps for school or work.  Not my problem.  Generally, MR. ED hollers up the stairs for her to get her bum out of bed before he leaves for work, but if she goes back to sleep...her poor choice for staying up face-timing til 3am.  If the truancy cops ever showed up, I'd gladly welcome them in and point them in her direction.

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 08/19/2019 - 10:29am

I agree that this isn't your problem!

However... If he doesn't graduate, he can't get into the military... that might mean you have him in your home longer. I am not saying drive him or get overly involved BUT I would beat on his door and yell "Get your butt out of bed, the bus will be here in 20!" just once if he isn't up and going that morning. If he doesn't get up after that, hands off- Dad's problem. 

18 is legally an adult but mentally still growing and learning.

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Submitted by Harry on Mon, 08/19/2019 - 2:07pm

Most of all you do not want SS staying all day in the house playing video games.  First thing gaming system goes.  Next is cellphone ect

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Submitted by Chmmy on Fri, 08/23/2019 - 4:02pm

I hate when the skids stay home fromschool for any reason. I work afternoons and the morning is my time. Just their presence in the home irks me.